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There is in Nature a great Law -- the Law of Attraction -- by the operations of which all things -- from atoms to men -- are attracted toward each other in the degree of the common affinity of common use.

The reverse of this law -- which is merely another manifestation of its power -- is what is called Repulsion, which is but the other pole of Attraction, and by the operations of which things tend to repel each other in the degree that they are unlike, opposing, and of no use to each other.

The Law of Attraction is Universal, on all the planes of life, from the physical to the spiritual. Its operations are uniform and constant, and we may take the phenomena of one plane and thereby study the phenomena of another plane, for the same rule applies in each case -- the same Law is in operation in the same way.

Beginning with the tiny corpuscles, electrons, or ions, of which the atoms are formed, we find manifested the Law of Attraction -- certain electrons attract each other, and repel others still, thereby causing to spring into existing groups, combinations and colonies of electrons which being in agreement and harmony manifest and constitute what are called atoms, which until recently were supposed to be the primal form of matter.

Passing on the atoms themselves, we find many degrees of affinity and attraction existing between them which cause them to combine and form into molecules of which all masses of matter consists.

For instance, every drop of water is composed of countless molecules of water. And each molecule is composed of two atoms of Hydrogen and one atom of Oxygen --the combination always being the same in every molecule of water. Now, why do these atoms combine in just this way -- with the same invariable grouping and proportion? Not by chance, surely, for there is no such thing in Nature -- there is a natural law back of every phenomenon.

And in this case it is the Law of Attraction manifesting in the case of these atoms. And it is so in all chemical combinations --it is called Chemical Affinity. Sometimes an attached atom will come in contact with, or in proximity to, another atom, and then bang goes the explosion of the molecule as the atom flies away from its partners and into the arms of the other atom for which it has a greater affinity. There are marriages and divorces in the world of atoms, you will notice.

And in the cases of the molecules, it is found that certain molecules are attracted to others of the same kind, under what is called Cohesion, and thus masses of matter are composed. A piece of gold, silver, tin, glass, or other form of matter is composed of countless molecules held together tightly by Cohesion -- and this Cohesion is merely another form of the Law of Attraction -- the same that draws all things together.

And, underlying the Law of Attraction is to be found our old Principle of Desire and Will. You may shrug your shoulders at this mention of desire and Will in connection with electrons, atoms, molecules -- all forms of matter, but just wait a bit and see what the leading scientific authorities have to say on the subject.

Prof. Hakel, one of the world's greatest scientists -- a materialist who would sneer at the teachings of Mental Science -- even this man, naturally prejudiced against mentalist theories, finds himself compelled to say: ``The idea of chemical affinity consists in the fact that the various chemical elements perceive the qualitative differences in other elements -- experience pleasure of revulsion at contact with them, and execute specific movements on this ground.''

He also positively and distinctly states that in the atoms there must be something corresponding to Desire for contact and association with other atoms, and Will to enable the atom to respond to the Desire Law is constant throughout Nature, from atom to man --physical, mental and spiritual.

But what has all this to do with the Secret of Success you may ask? Simply, that the Law of Attraction is an important part in the Secret of Success, inasmuch as it tends to bring to us the things, persons and circumstances in accordance with our earnest Desire, Demand, and Will, just as it brings together the atoms and other particles of matter. Make yourself an atom of Living Desire and you will attract to yourself the person, things and circumstances fitting in with the accomplishment of your Desire.

You will also get into rapport with those who are working along the same lines of thought, and will be attracted to them and they to you, and you will be brought into relations with persons, things and environments likely to work out the problem of your Desires -- you will get ``next to'' the right persons and things - all by the operation of this great natural Law of Attraction. No Necromancy or Magic about it at all -- nothing supernatural or mysterious -- just the operations of a great Natural Law.

The Law Of Attraction And Relationships

Have you ever had the experience of a stranger coming out of the blue and having a piece of information that you needed? Have you ever been steered away from making a mistake by a friend or stranger in the right place at the right time? Can you recall what this felt like?

Have you ever sensed your role in another person's manifestation of an experience? You perhaps gave them something, or did something that felt right for you and for them was an uncanny coincidence. Have you ever found yourself in the right place to provide something important for another person? Perhaps you felt compelled to talk to a stranger and you had the piece of information they were looking for?

I call this interplay between individuals 'Dancing.' We dance with others during every day of our lives. When we are open and willing, we participate and assist in the manifestation of their experience and others do the same for us. Some of these experiences are positive, and we feel like we are in the very flow of life. Other experiences are more challenging, or even negative, and can leave us questioning how we came to attract such a negative or painful experience into our lives.


As a therapist, coach and individual, I have come to understand the Law of Attraction as an extremely powerful force which effects our lives, whether or not we are aware of how it is working at any one time. Simply put, what we give our focus, emotion, and attention, we attract into our lives. Moving towards deliberate attraction requires an awareness of our intention, attention and emotional state. In a sense, we move from subconsciously creating events in our lives to consciously and deliberately affecting our experience.

When talking about the law of attraction in relationships, several questions come up. These include: Can we attract a specific person into our lives? Am I responsible - did I attract - this abuse from my colleague, partner, friend, or family member? How can I attract the relationship I want?

One of the issues these questions have in common is a search for where our responsibility ends and another person's begins.

Matching (Picking our Partners)

Everyone that you attract into our lives and engage with, are a match to something that you are vibrating at either a conscious or subconscious level.

If we want to know what you are vibrating, look at who you are attracting. It is a perfect match!

There are different kinds of matches to our vibrations. The most obvious is when we get a similar match.

Ideally, we want to feel empowered, optimistic and joyful and attract other empowered and optimistic people to us in all aspects of our life. When this happens, there is a sharing and connection that feels wonderful. It is a perfect match!

When feeling down, (low vibration), you may attract a friend who calls to complain about all the things they are down about. In this case, our low vibration is attracting someone of similar vibration. We will often engage with the person and stay at that low vibration or perhaps collectively go lower. How does this feel?

Other Matches

Have you ever had a friend or client stuck in a 'victim vibration' who seemed to attract abusive partners in their romantic or business relationships? Their vibration as a victim can be a match to a potential abuser. A second match to the 'victim vibration' is the rescuer. Rescuers, victims and abusers create what we know as the 'victim' or 'drama' triangle. These three roles vibrate matches to each other and individuals often get stuck moving from point to point in the triangle. In one relationship they may be the victim. IN the next, they mat be the rescuer or the abuser.

For example, many of the youth I have worked with in custody fall into this trap. They are often violent to 'rescue' a friend or to avenge a wrong. When caught, they feel victimized by police. When sentenced to custody, they feel like a victim of the justice system. They talk about getting even (offender role), blaming others for their situation (victim role) and wanting to stay with their boy or girl friend to keep them from getting into trouble (rescuer role). They continue to attract the same three matches into their lives and custody becomes a revolving door.

There are other less obvious variations of this triangle. Chronically sick individuals, very desperate or needy people, often vibrate matches for people who try to help them or use them in some way.

DRAMA TRIANGLE

Vulnerability

Most children and many adults live their lives unconscious of the law of attraction and the many other forces at work in creating their experience. Such people are unaware of the effect of their attention, focus and emotions. Their energy may be scattered rather than focussed and their emotions may be mixed and reactive. Such people are 'vulnerable' and can become unconscious participants in the more focussed and deliberate manifestation of others.

We know that most offenders pick their victims. This is a fact. They unconsciously or consciously match vulnerable children, adults, (banks etc.) at an intuitive level. Younger children, the elderly, or adults with disabilities are often chosen for this reason. Children, and some adults are then vulnerable to become part of a more deliberate plan and action by someone with greater intention, emotion and focus.

In addition, there are individuals who use these same laws of attraction to manifest power for themselves, or harm to others. They believe they are right, entitled, or are unconsciously driven to such experiences. In some cases their focus is collective and extremely powerful. Terrorists and other fear-based organizations are examples of this dynamic.

Free Choice

I once had a very amazing conversation with a Native teacher about the three concepts of destiny, potential, and free choice. To the best of my recollection, this is how he defined these concepts.

Destiny: Is an opportunity to fulfill a life's purpose. It is a predetermined circumstance that will manifest at some point in life. Some Native groups believe that we are born with predestined challenges that were agreed upon by our ancestors before our birth. Other Native groups believe that there are 'deals' made with other souls before birth to be part of their enlightenment challenge here on earth.

Potential: When we are challenged, the experience has the potential to be a powerful healing or destructive force. If we rise to the challenge and act out of integrity and grace, we heal both present and past issues related to the event. If we fail the challenge, we hurt ourselves and others involved.

Free Choice: We all have free choice. This is why we cannot attract a person to us who does not want to engage with us. We choose whom we engage with and we choose our actions.

We attract matches into our lives. It is our choice to engage with them or not. We are responsible for our actions. They are responsible for what they choose to do.

As we become more aware, we can also consider matches and experiences as powerful information and feedback as to what we are vibrating. We can also choose to engage or not engage, stay or leave. We can also choose to use this information to move ourselves to a different level of vibration.

Implications for Law Of Attraction Practitioners

Working with Others

Many of my coaching and counseling clients have been engaged in some form of the drama triangle (above). I have found the Law of Attraction tools to be very helpful in teaching an awareness of their emotions and how they are affecting their experience. They can learn that when they are in a 'poor me,' or 'victim' vibration, they are going to attract matches and choose to engage or not. They also learn the importance of changing their vibration and witnessing a change in the people they attract. By choosing a different vibration, they become empowered and even begin to heal!

Implications for Practitioners and Coaches

For law of attraction practitioners and coaches, we put out the intention of assisting others and attract such experiences to ourselves in the form of clients. We offer ourselves as 'helpers' for individuals who are choosing to manifest events in their lives. This experience is often very intuitive and joyful. We feel like we are in the flow of life.

Have you also experienced this intention bubbling over to experiences outside of you practice as well?

At times, we will attract people who will want to elevate us to heroes and rescuers. They will say things like "no-one understands me but you." "Without you I would be lost…." They want direct advice - for you to make the decisions. This however, does not empower, it keeps them in their comfortable 'victim' role. Counselors and coaches may become seduced into the role of rescuer and join the client in the drama triangle. How might this impact our lives outside of the office?

In Closing

As law of attraction practitioners and coaches, we can share powerful information and tools to empower others to make their own decisions and assume a new kind of responsibility in their relationships. We can empower others to dance with grace and integrity towards joyful and fulfilling relationships!


I’ve read a very good book “Influence” by Robert Cialdini. I started reading the book because of my interest in marketing, but in the chapter “Social Proof” I’ve found something very interesting connected with manifestation and the law of attraction.

In this chapter Dr Cialdini gives interesting statistics: immediately after highly publicized suicide stories the number of people who die in commercial-airline crashes increases by 1,000 percent. The number of people who die in car crashes increases dramatically as well.

The author analyzes the reasons why so many people die in crashes after highly publicized suicides. The first suggestion is that people commit suicides because of stressful socio-economic conditions. While some people commit suicides in such conditions, the others because of stress, become angry or nervous or impatient or distracted and cause fatal crashes.

But the socio-economic conditions are not the reason. The increase in accidents happens only in places where the suicides are highly publicized. In the places with the same conditions or even worst, if the suicides are not publicized, there is no increase in airplane and car crashes.

Another suggestion is that usually the suicides of famous and respected people are most publicized. This makes people so sad that they become careless around cars and airplanes. It’s a “bereavement” explanation. But from the statistics we know that “newspaper stories reporting on suicide victims who died alone produce an increase in the frequency of single-fatality wrecks only, whereas stories reporting on suicide-plus-murder incidents produce an increase in multiple-fatality wrecks only” (Influence p.141) We can clearly see that plane and car crashes are influenced by suicide stories, not by social conditions or sadness caused by deaths of respected people.

Another explanation comes from David Phillips and Dr Cialdini finds it brilliant. It’s called “Werther effect”. Werther is a hero from Johann von Goethe’s novel “The Sorrows of Young Werther” In the book the hero Werther commits suicide. The book had strong influence on many young people in Europe two centuries ago. Many people committed suicide, copying Werther. The book was banned in several countries.

According to Phillips some people kill themselves in imitation. Others who for different reasons, like reputations, insurance policies etc., decide to crash airplanes or cars to make their suicides look accidental.

There is more interesting information in Cialdini’s book, but there’s no space in this article to write about it. For most scientists David Phillips’ explanation seems the best one. Of course there are some quantum physicists now who find the law of attraction the best explanation for sharp increase in plane and car crashes after highly publicized suicides.

According to the law of attraction we attract what we mostly think about. When someone commits suicide and there’s a lot about it in the news, people think about it, become emotional, think about death and attract death. Of course I can’t scientifically prove the law of attraction, but I’m personally convinced that we attract the things we think about a lot, especially with emotion and when we worry about something.

About fifteen years ago when I traveled in India with a group of friends, two of my friends after reading about all bacteria and amoebas which can cause serious illnesses became very afraid of drinking water. We were all careful, but my two friends became so afraid that they used bottled water even to clean their teeth. The rest of us enjoyed traveling in India and didn’t worry about amoebas. When we came back to Europe, my “worried” friends became sick and amoeba was found in their bodies. They wowed never to go to India again. The rest of us was fine, we didn’t attract amoeba. Was it an accident that only my two “worried” friends got ill?

Later I moved to Thailand, where I felt very safe. I didn’t worry about any dangers, because I’d heard from other foreigners that is a very safe place and my experience was the same. Later when I got cable TV, I also got a free subscription of the local newspaper, so I started reading it every day. Then I learned about fighting between students of vocational schools, when they not only sometimes kill each other, but also accidentally innocent people on the street sometimes die during the fights. I learned about suicides, murders and robberies. I was pretty shocked and not knowing about the law of attraction started thinking that it’s not really such a safe place. Soon I saw a fight with knives between students on the bus I was traveling. I saw drivers fighting on the street. I started seeing more fights and aggression than ever before. Clearly I started attracting what I read about in the papers. Or was it just an accident?


When I learned about Manifestation and the Law of Attraction I stopped reading the newspapers regularly. I read them rarely. I sometimes watch the news, but I don’t allow my mind to dwell on murders and suicides. You might think that it’s bad and that I don’t feel compassion for human suffering, but I think that dwelling on tragedies brings more tragedies. People talk a lot about war against terrorism, drugs and crime, and we have more terrorism, drugs and crime. Of course terrorism, drugs and crime must be eliminated, but by dwelling on them I personally can’t eliminate them I can only attract them into my life, which I don’t want.

“Where is light, there is no darkness”. We can’t remove darkness, but when we bring light there is no darkness. We can replace negative things with positive things. I’m not talking here about being naïve or foolish and not seeing the reality, but to change my current situation I need first to change my mental state. I need to think positively, and reading the news about crime, suicides and wars won’t improve my life. It makes me depressed and stressed, and brings more depression and stress into my life, so I’ve made a decision to concentrate on positive emotions.

You don’t have to believe in the law of attraction. There’s no need for scientific proof. You can make an experiment. Stop reading about the bad news and try to read more about happy things. Avoid reading about crime, suicides and violence. Read more about great and successful people. Watch more comedies than violent movies. Continue your experiment for some time and you’ll see the difference in your life.


Have you ever wondered why sometimes we get something that we really didn't want in our lives? People often tell me, "I didn't ask for THAT!"

In fact, some people think that the Law of Attraction 'isn't working for me' when they attract something they didn't want into their life--but it is. You see, the Law of Attraction doesn't hear the words 'don't, not or no' (as in,

'I don't want that.' 'That's not what I want.' 'No more of this!') it only responds to your feelings (your vibes) about that subject. If thinking about a certain situation causes you to feel upset, the Law of Attraction sends you MORE upsetting situations.

Here's a story sent to me by a reader, that demonstrates what I mean:

I went to a charity event last night (for which I paid $50) and then I donated another $20 for raffle tickets for various prizes. The idea was to put your ticket into the bowl that represented the prize you wanted. Well, none of the prizes were exciting to me. I put my ticket into the bowl that seemed the best of the three. And as I did so, I said to myself, 'I' really hope I don't win this silly haircut.' Then I realized there were more than three prizes and I felt disappointed that I had put my ticket into that bowl, but it was too late to take it back. So, as they were calling the prize winners I again said 'I' don't want that haircut.' When they read out my number I was so disbelieving that I had to ask them to repeat the number because I could not believe that I had won it - especially because I had said so clearly, 'I don't want it!' - well you know the ending of this story. I focused on it, said "don't" and focused on it again. DUH!! Now the fact is, it is a nice prize and I will use it - what was I thinking?
Sometimes I use the illustration of the Internet Search Engines--if you go to www.goolge.ca and type in the words 'no porn'--what will you get? That's right--PORN. The Search Engines don't understand Don't give me--they just understand porn.

So, if I don't want something, how do I avoid attracting it into my life?

By answering this simple question: 'If I don't want this . . . what do I want?'

Sometimes it takes a while to formulate a positive answer to that question, but taking the time to do so is the ONLY way to stop attracting what you don't want.

If I don't want clients who are late for our sessions, what do I want? I want clients who are on time or early.

If I don't want to chase after clients to be paid for my services, what do I want? I want clients who joyfully pay by credit card or E-check for my services--on time or early.

If I fail to get clear about what I DO want, according to the Law of Attraction, I will attract that which I don't want into my life again and again--for until I place my focus on something else, what I don't want IS (by default) my focus.

Can you think of something that has been occurring in your life, over and over again? If so, take a few minutes--just 5 or 10 minutes and do this exercise:

1. Write down on paper what this reoccurring event is. State what happens and how it makes you feel.

2. Then ask the question: If I don't want that to happen again, what DO I want to happen? or If I don't want to feel like that again, what DO I want to feel like?

Get a picture in your mind, an idea or a feeling for how you would like it to be. Find the words that most accurately express what you want and write them down on paper. Doing this will engage all your senses to such a degree that you will automatically begin to attract events and situations that are more enjoyable.


Have you ever had that gut feeling when interviewing a potential client that something is 'off'? But because you had no 'evidence' of what it was, you went ahead and agreed to work with them. Just in case you are the one person out there who hasn't, let me set the scene.

Client Jones contacted me for a resume. I politely exchanged chitchat on his goals, intention for the project and content that would be pertinent. We agreed on a price and Client Jones decided to hire me. I emailed him the homework assignment to gather the information needed.

Fast forward one month. Being the good business person that I am -
I followed up. Client Jones replies that life has gotten in the way of his completing his homework, but he is still working on it and will get it back to me shortly. At this point I HAD THAT FEELING IN MY GUT THAT THIS ISN'T GOING TO WORK OUT, but I told myself that I can't just dismiss Client Jones --that wouldn't be good business. So I hoped for the best and kept him on as a client.

Now, a significant amount of time has passed and I am preparing to leave on vacation. Client Jones calls again, just three days before I am out the door. You guessed it -he needs his project finished quickly -in three days. I politely explained I was leaving on vacation and that I didn't have time to take on his project before I would leave. I politely explained again, and again, but before I hung up the phone I had agreed to rush his project through to accommodate him.

Of course, at the same time I was wondering what part of "no" the client did not understand, where I was going to get the extra time to complete this project, and I felt very unhappy with myself for giving in.

Are you still with me? Those of you who have encountered Client Jones are nodding and I can almost see the steam escaping from your head. Those of you that haven't, hang on, there is a point to this story.

I am now committed to work overtime to get this project done. But I can tell I am resisting the task. However, I put my heart and energy into making this document not only good, but great and even get it done within the tight time constraints.

As I email this project to Client Jones, I feel really good having accomplished superwoman feats and I feel as though I could jump tall buildings with a single bound if asked to.

And then I get the call from Client Jones. My heart sinks just by the tone of his voice. He relays that he is disappointed with the outcome and that major revisions would be necessary. Ouch! That stung. Without getting defensive I asked, "Can you give me an example of what you mean by that statement?"

Client Jones cannot exactly point out any particular verbiage or example that is less than perfect. He says it just doesn't feel right to him. So again, trying to keep in mind that losing my temper would not help the situation I inquired, "Could you give me some specifics so that I might better understand what you think would be a clearer statement?" (Caution: do not take your temperature at this point in time - the mercury could burst.)

Before noon on Friday I receive an email with what was supposed to be the help I needed to get the client's perspective of how he wanted his resume to showcase him. I pulled up the document with anticipation, hoping for the clue to get inside his head. The document I pulled up was his old resume, the old wording, the old format, and very few changes, ones I could not even begin to grasp as making a difference in the overall resume. My heart sank again. (At this time I was considering putting my heart on a yo-yo string so that I could pull it back up as quickly as it sank because this was happening way too often with this client.)

With critical time passing I did the next best thing and left my office to get my hair and nails done - what any woman would do before leaving on vacation. Right? I have often wondered how men manage that last day in the office.

Time check… it is now 3:30, ask me if I care about Client Jones. I look beautiful, well okay, I look better than when I walked out of the office, well passable on the street and not scaring small children on the sidewalk. When I get back to the office I decided that no amount of money is worth trying to fix this project, especially because Client Jones perception of a good resume and mine were as far away in distance as California from New York. I determined there was no amount of rewriting that could make this person happy and I was not willing to spend the Friday night before vacation trying to do so.

I make the dreaded call (heart is now attached to the yo-yo string). "Client Jones, thank you for following up with me after your meeting this afternoon. I trust everything went well? Good. I have to be honest with you. I carefully reviewed the document you sent back to me and it actually appeared to be your old resume with a few changes on it. Oh, it was your original resume. Oh, you didn't have time to really work out the changes that you wanted? Oh, I see. Yes, it is difficult to pull words out of the air to describe that (however, I have a few for you which I will keep to myself). Client Jones, after reviewing what you emailed over and the document I produced for you I realized that we are not on the same wavelength (this could be a Venus/Mars thing - but we won't even go there - save that topic for another Oprah). That rarely happens with my clients, however, I attribute it to trying to rush this project through within a short time frame, not having enough time to interact with you to get the true essence of how you felt best to portray your talents, etc. I just don't see how we can get this resume changed into the document you would prefer before I need to leave." Client Jones agrees.

What happened next? I graciously fired the client, refunded partial payment (Client Jones and I agreed that I should be compensated for my valiant efforts) and then packed for vacation. Moral of the story: don't take on a Client Jones before you leave on vacation. Listen to your head/heart/stomach or any other body parts that are telling you this will be a problem - because - it will be a problem. Of course I'm happy now because I'm now on vacation. My head left Friday afternoon, my other body parts are catching up and should arrive soon.

I swear, next time I get that sinking feeling in my stomach, I'm going to honor it by telling the Client, "You know, I just have the feeling that I'm not the best person to work on this for you. I have a colleague who I believe can serve you better. Here's his number..." How sweet it is when I listen to my gut feelings. How exhausting it becomes when I don't!