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Showing posts with label Magnetic Attraction. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Magnetic Attraction. Show all posts
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
What's The Opposite Of Doubt?
The Law of Attraction teaches us that whatever you focus on, you will attract MORE of into your life--whether it's wanted or unwanted. To deliberately attract more of what you enjoy, you need do only three things:
Be very clear about what you want--write it down, find the precise words that describe your desire.
Become a vibrational match for what you want--speak only in the most positive way about your desire and remember the three phrases that will raise your vibration faster:
I am in the process of attracting...
The Universe is in the process of lining every thing up so I can attract...
I LOVE it when...
Allow the Law of Attraction to deliver! Just eliminate doubt and receive what you've asked for.
What we're not told, is how to eliminate doubt. Better yet, what's the opposite of doubt? CERTAINTY. Say that word out loud...C E R T A I N T Y.
How does it feel to have CERTAINTY?
Can you recall a time when you had CERTAINTY?
What did CERTAINTY look like or feel like?
Do you remember arriving at a state of 'knowing' that what you desired would be yours?
Do you recall thinking or saying, "I know it doesn't look that way right now, but I just KNOW this is going to happen?" That's CERTAINTY.
The good news is that the Law of Attraction doesn't wait for you to have complete certainty before it starts delivering what you want.
It is waiting for you to have a little more belief than doubt--just 51% more belief for your desire will get things started. Once you 'allow' yourself to believe that it IS POSSIBLE to have your desire--that if it's possible for someone else to have this, then it is possible for ME to have it too--once you have tipped the scale so that your desire outweighs doubt, you'll begin to notice 'signpost' events that prove your desire is getting closer and closer.
Do you recognize signposts? A 'close-match' is a signpost. So is a 'taster' experience such as this one:
I've had a dream for my company, TeleClass International Services Inc., to bring the TeleClass Model into Corporations. The first signpost that this dream would be realized was a small contract we had with IBM to train 15 of their trainers. At the time, I thought my dream was in 'full production', however the next contract for Corporate TeleLeader Training arrived two years later. In the meantime, we attracted the perfect person to deliver the Corporate Training and we've had adequate time to train her in all aspects of this industry. Recently, the Corporate contracts have been flowing in at a steady rate as more corporations learn about TeleClasses and how this model can reduce their training costs. NOW my dream is being fulfilled.
As you pay attention to those signposts, acknowledge them for the encouragement that they are intended to be and celebrate that you are one more step closer, your belief will grow into CERTAINTY.
Notice how much closer you are today, to being certain that a long-held dream will one day become true. Make CERTAINTY your goal--and the Law of Attraction may surprise you with an early gift.
Where Is The Law of Attraction When A Tsunami Hits?
Several people have written to me asking for help in understanding how the Law of Attraction is at work when something as serious as the tsunami in Asia occurs. If you are wondering the same thing, then this article may help you understand AND keep your own vibration high and clear.
First, listen for stories of people who escaped or survived the tsunami. While the majority of news reports will focus on death and destruction, if you are listening for the positive, you'll hear about people who missed their flight to Asia, due to a snow storm in New England. You'll hear about people who decided to tour ancient ruins in the highlands. People will tell how their lives were saved despite being caught in the flood. Many people will wonder why they were NOT caught in the tsunami--that's Law of Attraction at work.
Second, you don't have to spend hours listening and watching the news. You really don't. You know enough already to be aware of what is happening without getting caught up in the vibration of fear and panic, grief and despair. AND if you do watch it, soon you will begin to vibrate that same frequency of fear, panic, grief and despair and the Law of Attraction WILL deliver what you vibrate. No, you don't want to go there! So, watch a funny movie (yes, you can do that). Read a good novel. Do whatever you need to do to keep your vibration positive.
"But what about all the people who died? Surely they didn't ask for that!" No, they didn't ask for this--not on a conscious level. But, let me ask you this question: Is it possible for the Universe, Law of Attraction or God to arrange for so many people to be in the precise place where they will all return to spirit at the same time?
Right now, you are safe. If you are reading this article, you have electricity and a computer...you are fine. Repeat after me: "Today I am fine. Right now, I am safe." You are.
"How can I help the people who are suffering right now?" Keep your thoughts focused on things that are positive and of high vibration. Visualize food and water reaching people, bringing relief to their bodies and gratitude to their hearts. Contribute financially to relief agencies if you want to help in a material way.
And remember, Law of Attraction is always at work, whether we understand it or not. From "9-11" to wars, to tsunami floods, to joyous prosperity and celebrations. Everything vibrates and you attract into your life precisely what you are vibrating.
Why Did Kermit Fall for Miss Piggy?
Take a look at Miss Piggy from the muppets. She was always very outgoing and confident, but more importantly she had amazing self-esteem. She thought and firmly believed that she was stunningly beautiful and she displayed it in a very dramatic way. Everyone fell for it, everyone found her to be glamourous. What's more, Kermit the frog even went and fell in love with her! But let's look at the truth of the matter - she was a pig!
Now she was no curvaceous Jessica Rabbit from the film "Who framed Roger Rabbit" who was a text book stunner! Miss Piggy certainly did not have the qualities of your typical super-model, I would even put my neck on the line and say that she was a bit chunky.
Developing self-esteem and oozing confidence can and does distinctly increase your ability to be irresistably attractive. It can and very often does create an illusion or aura of value, worth and desirability.
Why do we find a person with high self-esteem to be attractive? What is it about them that draws our attention and admiration? Is it the mystique? Is it an aura? That certain "je ne sais quoi?"
Look at what is happening here; a person who exhibits strong self-esteem is telling the world they value themselves. After all, the meaning of "self-esteem" is the esteem (value) of the self. It is the estimation of worth that you are giving to yourself. So when a person recognises their own self-worth and exhibits that to the rest of us, we start to think that they know something that we don't! In other words, they think they are special and have value.
Likewise when someone shows the world that they have low self-esteem, we tend to believe and think that if they do not think very highly of themselves, then why should we be impressed or respectful of them? We certainly don't usually allow ourselves to be dazzled by them.
In both cases, we simply go along with the estimation that what the person has signaled to us is valid. We tend to just believe the verdict that the person has put upon themself.
So why is that attractive? We, as humans, are naturally attracted to that which has been deemed valuable. We also tend to want to be a part of a larger group. We often follow the lead, join groups, and go along with the majority opinion - just to be part of the group.
High self-esteem can also create an illusion of attractiveness, or competence, even when it is not necessarily there. It is possible for us to be fooled. After all, attractiveness is a subjective attribute.
Self-esteem is the way that you feel about yourself, self-confidence is the way you feel about your abilities. Both can enhance your ability to attract partners, pay-rises, friends, sales, success, achievement and lots more. I think it would be valuable to learn how to increase your own self-esteem today. Hey, if it gets Miss Piggy pulling at someones (some-frogs) heart strings, it can do the same for you.
Why Did My "Perfect Partner" Leave Me? Part two of a two-part series.
In part one of this series, we examined: "Why am I NOT in a relationship with the love of my life?"
In Part 2, we'll look at why a seemingly "perfect partnership" falls apart and how to turn such a disappointment or pain into great personal growth.
So, you made your list of what you want in a guy (or gal) and you attracted THE ONE. You just know this is THE ONE because they seem to fulfill every desire on your list. WOW! You didn't know you were so powerful, did you? In fact, the realization of just how powerful you are can make your head spin--your vibration soars! And "Oh, I just know this is the perfect person," becomes your mantra. You begin to see each other often. You spend lots of time discussing everything from your favorite color to foods and sharing life experiences. Where has this person been? Why did it take us so long to find each other? In your mind and imagination, you can see the two of you together forever.
And then, it may be weeks, or months later, you are NOT together and you wonder, "Did I do something wrong? Is the Universe playing tricks on me? I thought this was THE ONE. What happened?" They found someone else. Or you discover something about them that caused you to withdraw from them. Maybe you just drifted apart. One thing is true, the disappointment of this relationship has released a tirade of self-depreciation and reinforced the old tapes--"It might happen for others, but it won't happen for me" and "I've missed my one chance at true love!"
Let's look at three reasons why a seemingly "perfect relationship" might not last forever:
Reason # 1
The Law of Attraction teaches us that we attract people, opportunities, situations and things that are in harmony with our dominant vibration. What happens, sometimes, is that that people are harmonious for a while, and then one person makes a decision or changes and sets themselves on a path that no longer harmonizes with our vibration.
Reason # 2
You did not realize that some things in a relationship are very important until the relationship ended. Do you remember the lady who wrote to me in part one of this series? She had not realized how important it is to attract a lover who has healed from past hurts. While she is still in love with this man, he could not remain in the relationship, due to his fear that she would one day leave him as his former lover had. To protect himself, he ended the relationship with the writer. He simply was not ready for a deep lasting relationship. Now, this lady has "healed and ready to commit" at the top of her list!
Reason # 3
Your Higher Self is ready for you to evolve into a more complete self-acceptance. That's right your Higher Self knows just how much you depend on others for your self-esteem and so it sets the stage for a dramatic (and often painful) situation.
This Higher Self is the True You. The One you've shied away from. The YOU you've avoided for so long. Your Higher Self has a message for you and wants your attention. It will have your attention sooner or later. And the sooner, the easier the lesson.
I have a client, who is nearly 60 years old, who is being confronted with this lesson and it is so painful to watch her struggle with it. The GOOD NEWS is that our Higher Self only wants our highest good and that includes:
KNOWING yourself
ACCEPTING yourself
HONORING yourself
TRUSTING yourself
LOVING yourself.
Once we believe that we ARE magnificent, delicious, marvelously designed spirits having a human experience--that there is NOTHING WRONG with us--that we ARE COMPLETE--that we don't need another human to make us whole--then we are ready for the most delightful, deep, satisfying personal relationships. All our desires will manifest in many meaningful and/or intimate relationships.
Ask yourself:
"Am I willing to learn more about myself so I can accept all parts of myself?"
"Am I willing to assign my own sense of worth or value?"
"Do I love and care for myself enough to 'grieve and get over' the lost lover?"
"Can I use this opportunity to understand myself better?"
If you ARE willing to grow and learn more about yourself through a difficult loss of a relationship, chances are you will attract someone into your life whose vibration is in beautiful harmony with yours.
Rebecca Hanson is a Master Law of Attraction Coach. Thousands of people have enjoyed her talks or articles about real-life experiences and how she found the "nugget of truth" in every situation. Now she has such a deep grasp of how faith, beliefs and thinking work that she is able to lift others to a higher level, very quickly.
Why is The Law of Attraction so Hard to Apply?
Very often people ask, “Why is the law of attraction so hard to apply to my life?”
Perhaps you are one of the many people who feel a bit frustrated by the results you are getting.
Most people believe that attraction begins and ends with negative or positive thoughts. While your thoughts do matter there is more to the attraction process and much more to understand about the nature of thought.
You see negative and positive thoughts do have a charge. A negative thought has a much weaker charge than a higher more positive thought.
Success with the law of attraction depends on you having higher thoughts not simple because they affirm what you want to attract but because the higher your over all thought frequency the higher your attraction.
For most people it is quite hard to elevate their thought vibration to a higher more powerful frequency. It’s not as easy as simply saying, “Today, I am going to think positive thoughts.” After many years of thinking in a negative way a persons over all frequency is quite low and it will take a little extra to change that over all frequency.
The lower your frequency the harder it is for you to actually attract what you want. The law of attraction will simply keep you at the same level where you presently are. One or two positive thoughts will not automatically make you a magnet for attracting what you want.
There are many ancient practices that can help in shifting a persons over all frequency to astonishingly higher levels very easy and in a matter of minutes. Often we turn away from teachings that are foreign to us but the reality is, if you want to change your life you must be willing to do things differently from the way you have always done it.
You must be willing to be open in order to maximize your understanding of the law of attraction and your ability to manifest what you want.
What would you be willing to do to finally attract what you want easily?
You Get What You Ask For
In life we get what we ask for.
Now you surely say that it isn’t true. You say you ask for freedom and happiness and all you got was feeling imprisoned and bad.
Let’s have a closer look to how creation works and how our subconscious mind works. Because it’s the same.
Everything that exists is created in someone’s mind. Everything starts with a thought. A thought is an energy. Energy wants to manifest itself. A lot of thoughts in the same direction will, that’s for sure, manifest in the real world.
This is the process of creation.
We are created by the same process. We use this process of creation all the time,
without knowing it.
When we are not conscious, then we are like most people and use this power to create a negative life. We have negative thoughts and get negative results.
Once we learn how to think positive thoughts, we will get positive results in our life.
How come? Our subconscious mind is like the earth. It does not interfere with what we sow. Earth does not say :”Nja I have enough of these carottes, it’s every time the same thing, I will make potatoes of it!” Earth does not say : “Bah I don’t like red flowers, I will turn the red into blue for these roses!” Earth does not interfere. Earth is patient, works in silence and gives us exactly what we put in it. And we KNOW that! We know we will get exactly what we put in the earth. When we put yellow flowers in it, we don’t expect them to be red when they blossom. When we sow roses in the garden we don’t expect onions to come out in spring!
And yet that’s how we react in real life. We sow onions and expect roses. We sow negative thoughts in our mind (onions) and expect good things (roses) to come out! We fool ourselves! And we blame others. We look for who can possibly be the fault of that (usually we blame the parents or the husband/wife for what goes wrong in our life). And then we cry and say we don’t have any luck in our lives. We look at the neighbour and think he’s lucky because he has roses in his garden, and we wonder what we did to the world to deserve only onions in our garden!
When the mainstream of your thoughts is negative, let’s say for 85 %, than the outcome will be negative for 85%. Your thoughts fall into your subconscious mind, which executes exactly what you put in it. It is like the earth. It is like a computer. When you type in your computer : “I am stupid, I am fat, I am ugly, nobody loves me”, are you angry with your printer when the paper comes out that says “I am stupid, I am fat, I am ugly, nobody loves me”? Do you throw a shoe at your computer and do you yell at him that he is the fault of everything that’s going wrong? No, because you know you put that information in it and your computer does not interfere. The output matches exactly the input.
So works our subconscious mind. If you don’t like the output, change the input. You get exactly what you ask for = what you think of the whole day. Don’t be angry with your life. You are not angry with the onions, are you? You are not angry with your computer, are you? Instead of being angry, learn how it works and learn to get positive results in your life. Start thinking positive thoughts. Think only thoughts you wish to see happen in real life. Think only what you want to become true. And wait for a while, be patient. One day you will harvest what you sew, like you know earth will give you back what you put in it. It is never lost. Just wait and see.
You Have To Resist To Not Receive What You Ask For
Ask and you shall receive describes the Law of Attraction in a nutshell.
The moment you are clear about what you desire, it is on its way to you.
The only way for you to NOT receive your heart's desire is for you to resist receiving it.
This is a Universal law. Just as the Law of Gravity must always pull toward the center, the Law of Attraction always works with such mathematical precision that it must deliver people, situations and opportunities that mirror our thoughts, feelings and emotions.
Doubt is the most common form of resistance. Often we spend time getting clear about the new car, new job, new house or new relationship that we want to enjoy. Then we begin to entertain thoughts that appear to justify our doubts.
"That costs way too much." (I doubt I can afford it.)
"No one has all the qualities that I'd like in a mate. I'm too picky." (I doubt I
can find someone who loves and accepts me.)
"This company has never hired a woman for that job." (I doubt they will
choose me.)
I have discovered that the antidote to doubt is not necessarily belief that something will happen, but being open to the possibility that it could happen.
Would you agree that if even one person has attained what you desire, then it could happen to you? It is possible.
When I went to the bank to get approval for the mortgage for my harborside condo, I was aware of the "reality" that the bank usually requires evidence of three years' earnings to qualify. I could only demonstrate three months' earnings high enough to qualify for such a large mortgage.
I could have focused on what I didn't have. I could have focused on what I had heard about bank loans. I could have said, "I really want to live there, but I don't think the bank will approve me for the mortgage." I'm sure all my family and friends would have agreed with me and added their stories to reinforce my doubt.
Although I did not know for certain that the bank manager would approve me based on those three months of income, I believed that somehow he could and I kept my thoughts focused on that real possibility.
It was interesting to watch the bank manager crunching numbers on his calculator--processing the "facts" and his sense of what I was capable of. Perhaps it was with some trepidation that he expressed his belief in me when he finally looked up and said, "If you can sell your present condo for this amount and purchase the harborside condo for this amount, it's yours. Normally, I need to see three years of income to approve a mortgage of this size, but I'm the bank manager!"
What is it that you clearly want in your life? What dreams have you expressed in thought or word that you have resisted by entertaining doubt? What do you really want? If you are willing to remain open to even the possibility of receiving it, you will.
You Only Need 51% Belief To Begin Attracting
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I've seen too many people 'beat themselves up' as they learn about the Law of Attraction and begin to apply it in their lives. Why are they so hard on themselves? Because when their desire doesn't materialize in a few days, they think they aren't doing it right or they don't believe enough. They are under the impression that in order to receive, they must have 100% belief--no doubt at all. And so they try to convince themselves, and the Universe, that they DO have 100% belief--when, in their heart, they don't.
Here's good news! You don't need 100% belief, just 51% to start the process of receiving all your goals, desires and hopes whatever you want in life will start to become your reality. Just believe that it's possible for you to have what you've asked for. All you need to do is tip the scales slightly and you will begin to notice small (or big) evidence that your desire is on its way.
As you stay in the mind-set of possibility, possibility grows into probability. Probability grows into belief and belief grows into certainty. Certainty is the opposite of doubt.
Here's a true story I received this week from Tony, a coaching client:
"Since learning about the Law of Attraction, I have discovered that there are times when I cannot BE the way I'd like to be. This week, I found myself in an impossible situation and I remembered what you said: 'Instead of starting from a place of certainty, 100% guarantee, start with it's possible.'
We visited friends in another state this weekend. On our return flight, airport security was so tight, we actually missed our flight by four minutes (we arrived at our gate--literally the farthest gate in the airport-- with six minutes to spare, but they close the aircraft ten minutes before departure and do not open it for anyone). We were put on the standby list for the next flight, which was full. Every flight after that next one was full, and it was important that we get back to go to work Monday--we both have full schedules, and staying another night was less than ideal.
I couldn't bring myself to believe that we were going to get on that next flight as 'Standby.' My wife was still freaking out that we missed our previous flight, we had run out of baby food, and my son was getting cranky for a nap.
I could not bring myself to believe we were getting on that flight, but I kept thinking 'it's possible.' The next thing I know, one of the flight attendants took a fancy to my son, and started chatting with my wife, and before you know it, we have--literally--the last two seats on the aircraft, and she arranged it so they were together, and we had a window. (Our son sat on our lap.)
It's still hard to believe I 'vibrated' us onto that aircraft, but I did keep it open as a possibility. So you were right, I only had to believe by 51%. Thank you, Rebecca!"
Tony G., New York
Think about all the times you HAVE received something when you still had doubts about it. What is your desire today? Has anyone else every received what you desire? If so, then is it possible that you can have it too?
If you can believe...You will receive.
You’re Desire Power And The 3 Keys of All Great People
Desire is a very strong Key towards your mind power.
You must not only know “what you want”, but you must also “want it hard enough” and be willing to make an effort towards attaining it…
And in order to do this you simply need to create a strong and intense desire towards whatever it is you want to accomplish or attain.
You need to develop a desire so strong it will cause you to use every ounce of your power and energy, toward the accomplishment of your object or goal.
Desire is said to be like a goal-striving energy, a sort of built-in magnet which has the means to pull whatever is needed to you… now this can work two ways for you, both as a “success magnet” or a “failure magnet,” it all depends on how you, the controller, controls it and also the goals you set for it.
Very few people know how to create and hold a strong dedicated desire, they satisfy themselves with simply “wishing” or even a mild “wanting”, and fail to put into action a strong, intense and continuing desire.
If you take a look at the progress of any person, who has accomplished both famous and wonderful things you will find there was, and is a strong and continuing desire for success, within them all…
You see most of the time, people who are successful - only become successful at what they do after trying many, many times and after never giving up!
All great people have the 3 Keys…
1. Know just what they want = (Belief, Enthusiasm )
2. Want it hard enough = ( Desire )
3. Are determined to get it = ( Will )
It is these 3 things only, which separate the men and women who have a strong sense of purpose, determination and desire, from the rest of us who merely “wish for things”
A strong desire can have a tremendous influence on all of your mental faculties, causing them to put all of their power and energies to work for you.
In fact, without desire you would not do much thinking at all, because there would be very little motive to do so... you would also perform no actions, as there would be no reason for such. Desire is the “mover of action” - both mental as well as physical action.
The strength of your work, whether it is mental or physical, will be determined by the amount of desire that you have for the goal, object or end result of such work.
The more you desire a thing… the more you want something, the harder you will work for it, and the easier this work will seem to you.
You see any task you perform under the influence or incentive of a strong desire will seem much easier - than the very same task performed without such influence, incentive or encouragement. Desire and affection are the two main reasons we are influenced or compelled to “do things”
If our desire or affection was somehow absent or missing, then there would be no action - because there would be no motive, reason or cause for such action or to do anything…
So most of the time we act solely because we “want” or “like” to.
Without desire or affection we would be unable to make any choices or decisions - this means we would perform no actions. Now we see that desire is the motive-power behind action.
Take away this motive-power and there will be no activity or movement. Without this “want” and “want to” there would be no “will to do” and this would lead to “not doing” anything.
Everything we do is prompted by desire in some shape or form. It would be impossible for us to remain without desire, and still act in one way or another - or in any way at all.
Desire is the motive-power behind all action; it is the breathing force behind all natural activities, processes and events. We can easily learn how to become masters of our own desire, instead of being mastered by it...
But before we do so, we must first desire to do so – we must desire to start, desire to achieve, and desire to finish what ever it is we want to accomplish in our life
Your Preferences - As Unique As Your Fingerprints
Would life be different, if you believed that everything you love and enjoy is just right for you?
What would happen if you knew yourself so well you could say with confidence, "No thank you, I prefer..."
How would you look at others, if you really understood that their choices are perfect for them?
The Law of Attraction teaches us to recognize our personal preferences by noticing how things feel and asking ourselves, "Which feels better? This or that?" When we take the time to notice our feelings, we learn about ourselves in a way that leads to great personal freedom and happiness.
Before I learned about the Law of Attraction and how I attract people, situations and opportunities in complete accord with my vibration (vibes), I tried to live by a set of standards or principles. I remember a time when I asked my pastor if he could give me a list of these principles so I could make sure I was living the right way. I did everything I could to be the perfect mother, dutiful housewife and selfless Christian. I thought that by conforming to what other people expected, I would become happy too. I was NOT a happy, joyful person. I was a person in great emotional and eventually physical, pain.
But the Law of Attraction taught me to notice when something doesn't feel good, because that feeling of discomfort is an indicator that something is NOT good for me. Anything out of alignment with who I am and all the purposes I came to fulfill will NOT feel good. WOW! I had been placing my hand on a hot stove and trying to feel comfortable with the pain. I'd lived with chronic emotional and physical pain for so long that I was becoming numb to it. (A third degree burn is painless because all the nerve endings are burned away.)
One day, the truth finally dawned on me: Only I can choose what is best for me. No one can tell me what is good for me--only I can tell. And the way I tell is by noticing how everything feels, then looking for the thought, answer, idea or thing that feels best.
"Good feels good. Bad feels bad." ~ Abraham-Hicks
Knowing and honoring my personal preferences causes me to fulfill ALL my life purposes--naturally. Everything I set out to do during this lifetime is already programmed within me. The way I 'read the program' is to notice what brings me great joy and follow that lead. In fact, this is the shortest and easiest way to find fulfillment. Before I learned about the Law of Attraction, I felt like I had lost 30 years of my life by trying to endure a poor marriage. But within 5 years of applying the Law of Attraction in the way described in this article, I felt caught up on life. About two years ago, I had a profound realization: "Today, I am exactly where I would be, if I had done the first 55 years of my life differently." That is a GREAT feeling!
Now I tell my students: "Your personal preferences are as unique to you as your fingerprints. Only you can do certain things in this life and your preferences are there to guide you into actually living life in the most joyfully satisfying way!"
What about you? Are you seeing yourself in this light? Have you wondered why you don't fit in with the crowd? Are you ready to accept yourself and your preferences as being right for YOU?
Your Thoughts and The Law of Attraction
We have all heard the expression, "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again." But to carry on without thinking about why you failed only leads to more failure.
The ability to create is a God given gift. A gift given to everyone without exception. Thought is the first step to manifesting any creation. Thoughts are energy, they are real. Your thoughts act as magnets and attract other thoughts, people, and circumstances that harmonize with them.
Thoughts operate and adhere to certain universal laws. Without these laws there would be no order; the universe itself would sink into chaos.
The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. Much of what was once considered metaphysical, esoteric knowledge in the past is now scientific fact. Physics has shown that the principles involved in the Law of Attraction are every bit as valid as those governing the Law of Gravity. So it should come as no surprise that dwelling only on your problems simply attracts more problems.
The idea of attracting success by thinking about it is very appealing. So appealing in fact, people often get the wrong impression that it's easy. Affirmations can be helpful, but mindless affirmations alone have no real value. On the other hand, once an affirmation becomes part of your belief system the subconscious goes to work attracting opportunities. It is not the success itself we attract, but the opportunity to succeed.
Our world is ruled by cause and effect, yet we often fail to see how this rule applies to the thoughts we think. This happens because the results of our thoughts are so far removed from the cause that we fail to see the connection.
The subconscious mind is working tirelessly 24 hours a day. It doesn't analyze, it doesn't judge, it simply accepts and attracts more of what the conscious mind is focused on. Are you attracting problems or solutions? By focusing on desire and showing gratitude for what you already have, the subconscious mind is given the necessary material to provide a constant stream of opportunities. Whether we take advantage of these opportunities or not is another story.
It's impossible to operate outside the law of attraction. Consciously or unconsciously your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, determine if this law works for or against you. Stay focused on your success and reaching your goals. As one success leads to another, success becomes a habit. Problems and obstacles are seen as no more than stepping stones on the road to your ultimate goal.
Your Vibrational Meter
Have you ever felt 'stuck' in life? I mean totally 'stuck'--immobilized, paralyzed or unable to make the right decision?
Several years ago, I felt totally stuck. I was considering a business opportunity that seemed like an ideal situation for me and promised to be very lucrative as well. However, I had hit burnout several times during the course of my association with this business and I had to admit that something did not feel right about the whole thing. I took two weeks off from communicating with the parties involved, believing that if I had some space I would find the answer that I needed, in order to know how to proceed. But at the end of the two weeks, I felt just as confused as I had been earlier, and did not know whether to proceed with a partnership or pull out partially or pull out entirely.
I went away to a nearby resort to try to clear my head and find the answer. After two days and nights I still was had no clear idea of what to do. I was trying so hard to figure everything out with my mind and my rational mind was not helping at all. Finally, in desperation, in the middle of the night I wrote:
"I need a new framework; a completely new way of looking at my life and making decisions."
The next morning, I plugged in a cassette tape a newfound friend had sent me. Though the tape was of poor quality, I heard something that has become my new framework:
You have within you a god-given vibrational meter that tells you what is good for you and what is not good for you. That vibrational meter is your emotions. If something feels good, then it is good for you. If something does not feel good, then it isn't.
I knew immediately that this business proposal was NOT good for me, because I did not feel entirely good about it. In fact, I was making myself sick trying to make it feel right when it was not.
What a relief it was to have this new framework from which to make decisions.
I had clarity and peace about not preceding with this business partnership AND I immediately wrote out a list of characteristics that I WANTED in a business partnership. Within a few days, I met my current business partner who is an absolute perfect match to that want list.
With the realization of this vibrational meter, you never need to make decisions with your mind. You never need to rationalize or justify your decisions. You simply need to recognize that "that doesn't feel good" and "that feels good" and "that feels great!" to know what is right for you.
What's The Opposite Of Doubt?
The Law of Attraction teaches us that whatever you focus on, you will attract MORE of into your life--whether it's wanted or unwanted. To deliberately attract more of what you enjoy, you need do only three things:
Be very clear about what you want--write it down, find the precise words that describe your desire.
Become a vibrational match for what you want--speak only in the most positive way about your desire and remember the three phrases that will raise your vibration faster:
I am in the process of attracting...
The Universe is in the process of lining every thing up so I can attract...
I LOVE it when...
Allow the Law of Attraction to deliver! Just eliminate doubt and receive what you've asked for.
What we're not told, is how to eliminate doubt. Better yet, what's the opposite of doubt? CERTAINTY. Say that word out loud...C E R T A I N T Y.
How does it feel to have CERTAINTY?
Can you recall a time when you had CERTAINTY?
What did CERTAINTY look like or feel like?
Do you remember arriving at a state of 'knowing' that what you desired would be yours?
Do you recall thinking or saying, "I know it doesn't look that way right now, but I just KNOW this is going to happen?" That's CERTAINTY.
The good news is that the Law of Attraction doesn't wait for you to have complete certainty before it starts delivering what you want.
It is waiting for you to have a little more belief than doubt--just 51% more belief for your desire will get things started. Once you 'allow' yourself to believe that it IS POSSIBLE to have your desire--that if it's possible for someone else to have this, then it is possible for ME to have it too--once you have tipped the scale so that your desire outweighs doubt, you'll begin to notice 'signpost' events that prove your desire is getting closer and closer.
Do you recognize signposts? A 'close-match' is a signpost. So is a 'taster' experience such as this one:
I've had a dream for my company, TeleClass International Services Inc., to bring the TeleClass Model into Corporations. The first signpost that this dream would be realized was a small contract we had with IBM to train 15 of their trainers. At the time, I thought my dream was in 'full production', however the next contract for Corporate TeleLeader Training arrived two years later. In the meantime, we attracted the perfect person to deliver the Corporate Training and we've had adequate time to train her in all aspects of this industry. Recently, the Corporate contracts have been flowing in at a steady rate as more corporations learn about TeleClasses and how this model can reduce their training costs. NOW my dream is being fulfilled.
As you pay attention to those signposts, acknowledge them for the encouragement that they are intended to be and celebrate that you are one more step closer, your belief will grow into CERTAINTY.
Notice how much closer you are today, to being certain that a long-held dream will one day become true. Make CERTAINTY your goal--and the Law of Attraction may surprise you with an early gift.
Where Is The Law of Attraction When A Tsunami Hits?
Several people have written to me asking for help in understanding how the Law of Attraction is at work when something as serious as the tsunami in Asia occurs. If you are wondering the same thing, then this article may help you understand AND keep your own vibration high and clear.
First, listen for stories of people who escaped or survived the tsunami. While the majority of news reports will focus on death and destruction, if you are listening for the positive, you'll hear about people who missed their flight to Asia, due to a snow storm in New England. You'll hear about people who decided to tour ancient ruins in the highlands. People will tell how their lives were saved despite being caught in the flood. Many people will wonder why they were NOT caught in the tsunami--that's Law of Attraction at work.
Second, you don't have to spend hours listening and watching the news. You really don't. You know enough already to be aware of what is happening without getting caught up in the vibration of fear and panic, grief and despair. AND if you do watch it, soon you will begin to vibrate that same frequency of fear, panic, grief and despair and the Law of Attraction WILL deliver what you vibrate. No, you don't want to go there! So, watch a funny movie (yes, you can do that). Read a good novel. Do whatever you need to do to keep your vibration positive.
"But what about all the people who died? Surely they didn't ask for that!" No, they didn't ask for this--not on a conscious level. But, let me ask you this question: Is it possible for the Universe, Law of Attraction or God to arrange for so many people to be in the precise place where they will all return to spirit at the same time?
Right now, you are safe. If you are reading this article, you have electricity and a computer...you are fine. Repeat after me: "Today I am fine. Right now, I am safe." You are.
"How can I help the people who are suffering right now?" Keep your thoughts focused on things that are positive and of high vibration. Visualize food and water reaching people, bringing relief to their bodies and gratitude to their hearts. Contribute financially to relief agencies if you want to help in a material way.
And remember, Law of Attraction is always at work, whether we understand it or not. From "9-11" to wars, to tsunami floods, to joyous prosperity and celebrations. Everything vibrates and you attract into your life precisely what you are vibrating.
Why Did Kermit Fall for Miss Piggy?
Take a look at Miss Piggy from the muppets. She was always very outgoing and confident, but more importantly she had amazing self-esteem. She thought and firmly believed that she was stunningly beautiful and she displayed it in a very dramatic way. Everyone fell for it, everyone found her to be glamourous. What's more, Kermit the frog even went and fell in love with her! But let's look at the truth of the matter - she was a pig!
Now she was no curvaceous Jessica Rabbit from the film "Who framed Roger Rabbit" who was a text book stunner! Miss Piggy certainly did not have the qualities of your typical super-model, I would even put my neck on the line and say that she was a bit chunky.
Developing self-esteem and oozing confidence can and does distinctly increase your ability to be irresistably attractive. It can and very often does create an illusion or aura of value, worth and desirability.
Why do we find a person with high self-esteem to be attractive? What is it about them that draws our attention and admiration? Is it the mystique? Is it an aura? That certain "je ne sais quoi?"
Look at what is happening here; a person who exhibits strong self-esteem is telling the world they value themselves. After all, the meaning of "self-esteem" is the esteem (value) of the self. It is the estimation of worth that you are giving to yourself. So when a person recognises their own self-worth and exhibits that to the rest of us, we start to think that they know something that we don't! In other words, they think they are special and have value.
Likewise when someone shows the world that they have low self-esteem, we tend to believe and think that if they do not think very highly of themselves, then why should we be impressed or respectful of them? We certainly don't usually allow ourselves to be dazzled by them.
In both cases, we simply go along with the estimation that what the person has signaled to us is valid. We tend to just believe the verdict that the person has put upon themself.
So why is that attractive? We, as humans, are naturally attracted to that which has been deemed valuable. We also tend to want to be a part of a larger group. We often follow the lead, join groups, and go along with the majority opinion - just to be part of the group.
High self-esteem can also create an illusion of attractiveness, or competence, even when it is not necessarily there. It is possible for us to be fooled. After all, attractiveness is a subjective attribute.
Self-esteem is the way that you feel about yourself, self-confidence is the way you feel about your abilities. Both can enhance your ability to attract partners, pay-rises, friends, sales, success, achievement and lots more. I think it would be valuable to learn how to increase your own self-esteem today. Hey, if it gets Miss Piggy pulling at someones (some-frogs) heart strings, it can do the same for you.
Why Did My "Perfect Partner" Leave Me? Part two of a two-part series.
In part one of this series, we examined: "Why am I NOT in a relationship with the love of my life?"
In Part 2, we'll look at why a seemingly "perfect partnership" falls apart and how to turn such a disappointment or pain into great personal growth.
So, you made your list of what you want in a guy (or gal) and you attracted THE ONE. You just know this is THE ONE because they seem to fulfill every desire on your list. WOW! You didn't know you were so powerful, did you? In fact, the realization of just how powerful you are can make your head spin--your vibration soars! And "Oh, I just know this is the perfect person," becomes your mantra. You begin to see each other often. You spend lots of time discussing everything from your favorite color to foods and sharing life experiences. Where has this person been? Why did it take us so long to find each other? In your mind and imagination, you can see the two of you together forever.
And then, it may be weeks, or months later, you are NOT together and you wonder, "Did I do something wrong? Is the Universe playing tricks on me? I thought this was THE ONE. What happened?" They found someone else. Or you discover something about them that caused you to withdraw from them. Maybe you just drifted apart. One thing is true, the disappointment of this relationship has released a tirade of self-depreciation and reinforced the old tapes--"It might happen for others, but it won't happen for me" and "I've missed my one chance at true love!"
Let's look at three reasons why a seemingly "perfect relationship" might not last forever:
Reason # 1
The Law of Attraction teaches us that we attract people, opportunities, situations and things that are in harmony with our dominant vibration. What happens, sometimes, is that that people are harmonious for a while, and then one person makes a decision or changes and sets themselves on a path that no longer harmonizes with our vibration.
Reason # 2
You did not realize that some things in a relationship are very important until the relationship ended. Do you remember the lady who wrote to me in part one of this series? She had not realized how important it is to attract a lover who has healed from past hurts. While she is still in love with this man, he could not remain in the relationship, due to his fear that she would one day leave him as his former lover had. To protect himself, he ended the relationship with the writer. He simply was not ready for a deep lasting relationship. Now, this lady has "healed and ready to commit" at the top of her list!
Reason # 3
Your Higher Self is ready for you to evolve into a more complete self-acceptance. That's right your Higher Self knows just how much you depend on others for your self-esteem and so it sets the stage for a dramatic (and often painful) situation.
This Higher Self is the True You. The One you've shied away from. The YOU you've avoided for so long. Your Higher Self has a message for you and wants your attention. It will have your attention sooner or later. And the sooner, the easier the lesson.
I have a client, who is nearly 60 years old, who is being confronted with this lesson and it is so painful to watch her struggle with it. The GOOD NEWS is that our Higher Self only wants our highest good and that includes:
KNOWING yourself
ACCEPTING yourself
HONORING yourself
TRUSTING yourself
LOVING yourself.
Once we believe that we ARE magnificent, delicious, marvelously designed spirits having a human experience--that there is NOTHING WRONG with us--that we ARE COMPLETE--that we don't need another human to make us whole--then we are ready for the most delightful, deep, satisfying personal relationships. All our desires will manifest in many meaningful and/or intimate relationships.
Ask yourself:
"Am I willing to learn more about myself so I can accept all parts of myself?"
"Am I willing to assign my own sense of worth or value?"
"Do I love and care for myself enough to 'grieve and get over' the lost lover?"
"Can I use this opportunity to understand myself better?"
If you ARE willing to grow and learn more about yourself through a difficult loss of a relationship, chances are you will attract someone into your life whose vibration is in beautiful harmony with yours.
Rebecca Hanson is a Master Law of Attraction Coach. Thousands of people have enjoyed her talks or articles about real-life experiences and how she found the "nugget of truth" in every situation. Now she has such a deep grasp of how faith, beliefs and thinking work that she is able to lift others to a higher level, very quickly.
Why is The Law of Attraction so Hard to Apply?
Very often people ask, “Why is the law of attraction so hard to apply to my life?”
Perhaps you are one of the many people who feel a bit frustrated by the results you are getting.
Most people believe that attraction begins and ends with negative or positive thoughts. While your thoughts do matter there is more to the attraction process and much more to understand about the nature of thought.
You see negative and positive thoughts do have a charge. A negative thought has a much weaker charge than a higher more positive thought.
Success with the law of attraction depends on you having higher thoughts not simple because they affirm what you want to attract but because the higher your over all thought frequency the higher your attraction.
For most people it is quite hard to elevate their thought vibration to a higher more powerful frequency. It’s not as easy as simply saying, “Today, I am going to think positive thoughts.” After many years of thinking in a negative way a persons over all frequency is quite low and it will take a little extra to change that over all frequency.
The lower your frequency the harder it is for you to actually attract what you want. The law of attraction will simply keep you at the same level where you presently are. One or two positive thoughts will not automatically make you a magnet for attracting what you want.
There are many ancient practices that can help in shifting a persons over all frequency to astonishingly higher levels very easy and in a matter of minutes. Often we turn away from teachings that are foreign to us but the reality is, if you want to change your life you must be willing to do things differently from the way you have always done it.
You must be willing to be open in order to maximize your understanding of the law of attraction and your ability to manifest what you want.
What would you be willing to do to finally attract what you want easily?
You Get What You Ask For
In life we get what we ask for.
Now you surely say that it isn’t true. You say you ask for freedom and happiness and all you got was feeling imprisoned and bad.
Let’s have a closer look to how creation works and how our subconscious mind works. Because it’s the same.
Everything that exists is created in someone’s mind. Everything starts with a thought. A thought is an energy. Energy wants to manifest itself. A lot of thoughts in the same direction will, that’s for sure, manifest in the real world.
This is the process of creation.
We are created by the same process. We use this process of creation all the time,
without knowing it.
When we are not conscious, then we are like most people and use this power to create a negative life. We have negative thoughts and get negative results.
Once we learn how to think positive thoughts, we will get positive results in our life.
How come? Our subconscious mind is like the earth. It does not interfere with what we sow. Earth does not say :”Nja I have enough of these carottes, it’s every time the same thing, I will make potatoes of it!” Earth does not say : “Bah I don’t like red flowers, I will turn the red into blue for these roses!” Earth does not interfere. Earth is patient, works in silence and gives us exactly what we put in it. And we KNOW that! We know we will get exactly what we put in the earth. When we put yellow flowers in it, we don’t expect them to be red when they blossom. When we sow roses in the garden we don’t expect onions to come out in spring!
And yet that’s how we react in real life. We sow onions and expect roses. We sow negative thoughts in our mind (onions) and expect good things (roses) to come out! We fool ourselves! And we blame others. We look for who can possibly be the fault of that (usually we blame the parents or the husband/wife for what goes wrong in our life). And then we cry and say we don’t have any luck in our lives. We look at the neighbour and think he’s lucky because he has roses in his garden, and we wonder what we did to the world to deserve only onions in our garden!
When the mainstream of your thoughts is negative, let’s say for 85 %, than the outcome will be negative for 85%. Your thoughts fall into your subconscious mind, which executes exactly what you put in it. It is like the earth. It is like a computer. When you type in your computer : “I am stupid, I am fat, I am ugly, nobody loves me”, are you angry with your printer when the paper comes out that says “I am stupid, I am fat, I am ugly, nobody loves me”? Do you throw a shoe at your computer and do you yell at him that he is the fault of everything that’s going wrong? No, because you know you put that information in it and your computer does not interfere. The output matches exactly the input.
So works our subconscious mind. If you don’t like the output, change the input. You get exactly what you ask for = what you think of the whole day. Don’t be angry with your life. You are not angry with the onions, are you? You are not angry with your computer, are you? Instead of being angry, learn how it works and learn to get positive results in your life. Start thinking positive thoughts. Think only thoughts you wish to see happen in real life. Think only what you want to become true. And wait for a while, be patient. One day you will harvest what you sew, like you know earth will give you back what you put in it. It is never lost. Just wait and see.
You Have To Resist To Not Receive What You Ask For
Ask and you shall receive describes the Law of Attraction in a nutshell.
The moment you are clear about what you desire, it is on its way to you.
The only way for you to NOT receive your heart's desire is for you to resist receiving it.
This is a Universal law. Just as the Law of Gravity must always pull toward the center, the Law of Attraction always works with such mathematical precision that it must deliver people, situations and opportunities that mirror our thoughts, feelings and emotions.
Doubt is the most common form of resistance. Often we spend time getting clear about the new car, new job, new house or new relationship that we want to enjoy. Then we begin to entertain thoughts that appear to justify our doubts.
"That costs way too much." (I doubt I can afford it.)
"No one has all the qualities that I'd like in a mate. I'm too picky." (I doubt I
can find someone who loves and accepts me.)
"This company has never hired a woman for that job." (I doubt they will
choose me.)
I have discovered that the antidote to doubt is not necessarily belief that something will happen, but being open to the possibility that it could happen.
Would you agree that if even one person has attained what you desire, then it could happen to you? It is possible.
When I went to the bank to get approval for the mortgage for my harborside condo, I was aware of the "reality" that the bank usually requires evidence of three years' earnings to qualify. I could only demonstrate three months' earnings high enough to qualify for such a large mortgage.
I could have focused on what I didn't have. I could have focused on what I had heard about bank loans. I could have said, "I really want to live there, but I don't think the bank will approve me for the mortgage." I'm sure all my family and friends would have agreed with me and added their stories to reinforce my doubt.
Although I did not know for certain that the bank manager would approve me based on those three months of income, I believed that somehow he could and I kept my thoughts focused on that real possibility.
It was interesting to watch the bank manager crunching numbers on his calculator--processing the "facts" and his sense of what I was capable of. Perhaps it was with some trepidation that he expressed his belief in me when he finally looked up and said, "If you can sell your present condo for this amount and purchase the harborside condo for this amount, it's yours. Normally, I need to see three years of income to approve a mortgage of this size, but I'm the bank manager!"
What is it that you clearly want in your life? What dreams have you expressed in thought or word that you have resisted by entertaining doubt? What do you really want? If you are willing to remain open to even the possibility of receiving it, you will.
You Only Need 51% Belief To Begin Attracting
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I've seen too many people 'beat themselves up' as they learn about the Law of Attraction and begin to apply it in their lives. Why are they so hard on themselves? Because when their desire doesn't materialize in a few days, they think they aren't doing it right or they don't believe enough. They are under the impression that in order to receive, they must have 100% belief--no doubt at all. And so they try to convince themselves, and the Universe, that they DO have 100% belief--when, in their heart, they don't.
Here's good news! You don't need 100% belief, just 51% to start the process of receiving all your goals, desires and hopes whatever you want in life will start to become your reality. Just believe that it's possible for you to have what you've asked for. All you need to do is tip the scales slightly and you will begin to notice small (or big) evidence that your desire is on its way.
As you stay in the mind-set of possibility, possibility grows into probability. Probability grows into belief and belief grows into certainty. Certainty is the opposite of doubt.
Here's a true story I received this week from Tony, a coaching client:
"Since learning about the Law of Attraction, I have discovered that there are times when I cannot BE the way I'd like to be. This week, I found myself in an impossible situation and I remembered what you said: 'Instead of starting from a place of certainty, 100% guarantee, start with it's possible.'
We visited friends in another state this weekend. On our return flight, airport security was so tight, we actually missed our flight by four minutes (we arrived at our gate--literally the farthest gate in the airport-- with six minutes to spare, but they close the aircraft ten minutes before departure and do not open it for anyone). We were put on the standby list for the next flight, which was full. Every flight after that next one was full, and it was important that we get back to go to work Monday--we both have full schedules, and staying another night was less than ideal.
I couldn't bring myself to believe that we were going to get on that next flight as 'Standby.' My wife was still freaking out that we missed our previous flight, we had run out of baby food, and my son was getting cranky for a nap.
I could not bring myself to believe we were getting on that flight, but I kept thinking 'it's possible.' The next thing I know, one of the flight attendants took a fancy to my son, and started chatting with my wife, and before you know it, we have--literally--the last two seats on the aircraft, and she arranged it so they were together, and we had a window. (Our son sat on our lap.)
It's still hard to believe I 'vibrated' us onto that aircraft, but I did keep it open as a possibility. So you were right, I only had to believe by 51%. Thank you, Rebecca!"
Tony G., New York
Think about all the times you HAVE received something when you still had doubts about it. What is your desire today? Has anyone else every received what you desire? If so, then is it possible that you can have it too?
If you can believe...You will receive.
You’re Desire Power And The 3 Keys of All Great People
Desire is a very strong Key towards your mind power.
You must not only know “what you want”, but you must also “want it hard enough” and be willing to make an effort towards attaining it…
And in order to do this you simply need to create a strong and intense desire towards whatever it is you want to accomplish or attain.
You need to develop a desire so strong it will cause you to use every ounce of your power and energy, toward the accomplishment of your object or goal.
Desire is said to be like a goal-striving energy, a sort of built-in magnet which has the means to pull whatever is needed to you… now this can work two ways for you, both as a “success magnet” or a “failure magnet,” it all depends on how you, the controller, controls it and also the goals you set for it.
Very few people know how to create and hold a strong dedicated desire, they satisfy themselves with simply “wishing” or even a mild “wanting”, and fail to put into action a strong, intense and continuing desire.
If you take a look at the progress of any person, who has accomplished both famous and wonderful things you will find there was, and is a strong and continuing desire for success, within them all…
You see most of the time, people who are successful - only become successful at what they do after trying many, many times and after never giving up!
All great people have the 3 Keys…
1. Know just what they want = (Belief, Enthusiasm )
2. Want it hard enough = ( Desire )
3. Are determined to get it = ( Will )
It is these 3 things only, which separate the men and women who have a strong sense of purpose, determination and desire, from the rest of us who merely “wish for things”
A strong desire can have a tremendous influence on all of your mental faculties, causing them to put all of their power and energies to work for you.
In fact, without desire you would not do much thinking at all, because there would be very little motive to do so... you would also perform no actions, as there would be no reason for such. Desire is the “mover of action” - both mental as well as physical action.
The strength of your work, whether it is mental or physical, will be determined by the amount of desire that you have for the goal, object or end result of such work.
The more you desire a thing… the more you want something, the harder you will work for it, and the easier this work will seem to you.
You see any task you perform under the influence or incentive of a strong desire will seem much easier - than the very same task performed without such influence, incentive or encouragement. Desire and affection are the two main reasons we are influenced or compelled to “do things”
If our desire or affection was somehow absent or missing, then there would be no action - because there would be no motive, reason or cause for such action or to do anything…
So most of the time we act solely because we “want” or “like” to.
Without desire or affection we would be unable to make any choices or decisions - this means we would perform no actions. Now we see that desire is the motive-power behind action.
Take away this motive-power and there will be no activity or movement. Without this “want” and “want to” there would be no “will to do” and this would lead to “not doing” anything.
Everything we do is prompted by desire in some shape or form. It would be impossible for us to remain without desire, and still act in one way or another - or in any way at all.
Desire is the motive-power behind all action; it is the breathing force behind all natural activities, processes and events. We can easily learn how to become masters of our own desire, instead of being mastered by it...
But before we do so, we must first desire to do so – we must desire to start, desire to achieve, and desire to finish what ever it is we want to accomplish in our life
Your Preferences - As Unique As Your Fingerprints
Would life be different, if you believed that everything you love and enjoy is just right for you?
What would happen if you knew yourself so well you could say with confidence, "No thank you, I prefer..."
How would you look at others, if you really understood that their choices are perfect for them?
The Law of Attraction teaches us to recognize our personal preferences by noticing how things feel and asking ourselves, "Which feels better? This or that?" When we take the time to notice our feelings, we learn about ourselves in a way that leads to great personal freedom and happiness.
Before I learned about the Law of Attraction and how I attract people, situations and opportunities in complete accord with my vibration (vibes), I tried to live by a set of standards or principles. I remember a time when I asked my pastor if he could give me a list of these principles so I could make sure I was living the right way. I did everything I could to be the perfect mother, dutiful housewife and selfless Christian. I thought that by conforming to what other people expected, I would become happy too. I was NOT a happy, joyful person. I was a person in great emotional and eventually physical, pain.
But the Law of Attraction taught me to notice when something doesn't feel good, because that feeling of discomfort is an indicator that something is NOT good for me. Anything out of alignment with who I am and all the purposes I came to fulfill will NOT feel good. WOW! I had been placing my hand on a hot stove and trying to feel comfortable with the pain. I'd lived with chronic emotional and physical pain for so long that I was becoming numb to it. (A third degree burn is painless because all the nerve endings are burned away.)
One day, the truth finally dawned on me: Only I can choose what is best for me. No one can tell me what is good for me--only I can tell. And the way I tell is by noticing how everything feels, then looking for the thought, answer, idea or thing that feels best.
"Good feels good. Bad feels bad." ~ Abraham-Hicks
Knowing and honoring my personal preferences causes me to fulfill ALL my life purposes--naturally. Everything I set out to do during this lifetime is already programmed within me. The way I 'read the program' is to notice what brings me great joy and follow that lead. In fact, this is the shortest and easiest way to find fulfillment. Before I learned about the Law of Attraction, I felt like I had lost 30 years of my life by trying to endure a poor marriage. But within 5 years of applying the Law of Attraction in the way described in this article, I felt caught up on life. About two years ago, I had a profound realization: "Today, I am exactly where I would be, if I had done the first 55 years of my life differently." That is a GREAT feeling!
Now I tell my students: "Your personal preferences are as unique to you as your fingerprints. Only you can do certain things in this life and your preferences are there to guide you into actually living life in the most joyfully satisfying way!"
What about you? Are you seeing yourself in this light? Have you wondered why you don't fit in with the crowd? Are you ready to accept yourself and your preferences as being right for YOU?
Your Thoughts and The Law of Attraction
We have all heard the expression, "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again." But to carry on without thinking about why you failed only leads to more failure.
The ability to create is a God given gift. A gift given to everyone without exception. Thought is the first step to manifesting any creation. Thoughts are energy, they are real. Your thoughts act as magnets and attract other thoughts, people, and circumstances that harmonize with them.
Thoughts operate and adhere to certain universal laws. Without these laws there would be no order; the universe itself would sink into chaos.
The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. Much of what was once considered metaphysical, esoteric knowledge in the past is now scientific fact. Physics has shown that the principles involved in the Law of Attraction are every bit as valid as those governing the Law of Gravity. So it should come as no surprise that dwelling only on your problems simply attracts more problems.
The idea of attracting success by thinking about it is very appealing. So appealing in fact, people often get the wrong impression that it's easy. Affirmations can be helpful, but mindless affirmations alone have no real value. On the other hand, once an affirmation becomes part of your belief system the subconscious goes to work attracting opportunities. It is not the success itself we attract, but the opportunity to succeed.
Our world is ruled by cause and effect, yet we often fail to see how this rule applies to the thoughts we think. This happens because the results of our thoughts are so far removed from the cause that we fail to see the connection.
The subconscious mind is working tirelessly 24 hours a day. It doesn't analyze, it doesn't judge, it simply accepts and attracts more of what the conscious mind is focused on. Are you attracting problems or solutions? By focusing on desire and showing gratitude for what you already have, the subconscious mind is given the necessary material to provide a constant stream of opportunities. Whether we take advantage of these opportunities or not is another story.
It's impossible to operate outside the law of attraction. Consciously or unconsciously your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, determine if this law works for or against you. Stay focused on your success and reaching your goals. As one success leads to another, success becomes a habit. Problems and obstacles are seen as no more than stepping stones on the road to your ultimate goal.
Your Vibrational Meter
Have you ever felt 'stuck' in life? I mean totally 'stuck'--immobilized, paralyzed or unable to make the right decision?
Several years ago, I felt totally stuck. I was considering a business opportunity that seemed like an ideal situation for me and promised to be very lucrative as well. However, I had hit burnout several times during the course of my association with this business and I had to admit that something did not feel right about the whole thing. I took two weeks off from communicating with the parties involved, believing that if I had some space I would find the answer that I needed, in order to know how to proceed. But at the end of the two weeks, I felt just as confused as I had been earlier, and did not know whether to proceed with a partnership or pull out partially or pull out entirely.
I went away to a nearby resort to try to clear my head and find the answer. After two days and nights I still was had no clear idea of what to do. I was trying so hard to figure everything out with my mind and my rational mind was not helping at all. Finally, in desperation, in the middle of the night I wrote:
"I need a new framework; a completely new way of looking at my life and making decisions."
The next morning, I plugged in a cassette tape a newfound friend had sent me. Though the tape was of poor quality, I heard something that has become my new framework:
You have within you a god-given vibrational meter that tells you what is good for you and what is not good for you. That vibrational meter is your emotions. If something feels good, then it is good for you. If something does not feel good, then it isn't.
I knew immediately that this business proposal was NOT good for me, because I did not feel entirely good about it. In fact, I was making myself sick trying to make it feel right when it was not.
What a relief it was to have this new framework from which to make decisions.
I had clarity and peace about not preceding with this business partnership AND I immediately wrote out a list of characteristics that I WANTED in a business partnership. Within a few days, I met my current business partner who is an absolute perfect match to that want list.
With the realization of this vibrational meter, you never need to make decisions with your mind. You never need to rationalize or justify your decisions. You simply need to recognize that "that doesn't feel good" and "that feels good" and "that feels great!" to know what is right for you.
The Secret to Getting What You Want
Althought many people are aware of the law of attraction after seeing the secret few people really get it. The law of attraction is both easy and hard all at once. Why do some people get it while others fail to see any results?
Some people have what some call think skin. They have an ability to go inside of themselves and ignore the outer creation. No matter what others are saying to them or no matter what is going on around them, they have the power to go inside and trust what is inside of themselves more.
Some may call them dreamers; others may say that they are introverts but that nature is the power it takes to apply the secret.
Be in the world but not of the world.
Reality is a reflection of your inner world, that is the true secret. To be able to manifest what you deeply want in life you must have total faith of your inner world. You must become aware of the images that fly by as you go about your day. The law of attraction never takes a break it is always giving to you what you are dreaming up.
As you become aware of your inner dream you can begin to control it and mold it to what you would like. The outside world should never influence your inner world. Because you do not have the full understanding of how the law of attraction works or the nature of your thoughts you continue to create again and again the old conditions.
Someone’s disappointment in life should never influence your actions. You create your reality the moment you become aware of your own ability to dream it into existence regardless of what anyone says is possible or impossible.
The secret law of attraction works but in order to use it successfully you must become aware of your own dream.
The Truth About Body Image
Have you ever considered how much your body image - your personal packaging, contributes to your business and personal success?
The multi million pound cosmetics industry is acutely aware of the value of packaging. You'll know this if you've ever bought anything from those glamorous ladies whose counters are always just inside the front door of Department Stores.
However, from time to time we're presented with surveys about the creams we rub on our bodies which take years off our age and make our skin as soft as a baby's bottie. The surveys tell us "Buy the cheap stuff or the own label one from the supermarket, 'cause they're all the same."
But do we? Of course we don't. Human beings are driven by emotions not logic and never more so when spending their money.
People buy with their eyes, we love packaging. The marketing and merchandising experts have it down to a fine art and know the colours and shapes that we're most likely to buy. They then design their packaging accordingly and make sure it grabs our attention.
The product in the packaging has to do what it says it'll do, however if it looks like it can do the business, then we're more likely to believe it can.
It's just the same with people. Whether we like it or not, people are likely to make judgements about us by our body image, the way we're packaged.
They'll then decide whether they like us,whether they'll give us a job or even just believe what we say.
This seems to be so obvious. Yet I've seen professional speakers with scuffed shoes, business leaders with outdated suits and politicians wearing clothes that don't fit them or suit their shape.
A few months ago I attended a function where an accountant was invited to speak about his business. He told the assembled audience how efficient his business was and about their attention to detail. However his tie was undone and his shirt looked like he was breaking it in for a smaller friend. His suit, though probably expensive, wasn't the right colour for him and merely drew attention to the fact that its wearer liked his food. All of the things he was saying were totally contradicted by his body image.
Lawyers, accountants, plumbers or software engineers; it doesn't matter what you do, other people are very liable to make a judgement about your abilities by how you're packaged.
Your colleagues and your boss will all make decisions about the quality of your work and your promotion prospects by your dress and body image.
There's the famous story about the 1960's pre-election television debates between John F. Kennedy and Richard Nixon. These debates were also heard on radio, which was much more popular at the time. After the debates a poll was taken of how TV and radio audiences had reacted to the two participants. The radio audience voted for Nixon, however the TV audience voted overwhelmingly for Kennedy. The TV audience liked the look of Kennedy better than Nixon - they liked the packaging.
We also tend to make decisions very quickly about people we come into contact with. Psychologists have established that we subconsciously make around eleven decisions about other people within the first six seconds of meeting them.
Personnel managers have admitted in surveys to making a decision about a job applicant within the first thirty seconds of an interview, these decisions being made primarily on how the people looked and carried themselves.
How we look will confirm or contradict what we say. First impressions are also lasting impressions and take a lot of changing.
Okay, so we can't all have the perfect looks or the perfect body, what ever that is. It doesn't matter what shape you are but it does matter how you package that shape, if you want to make an impact on other people.
How you package yourself can also make a huge difference to your self-confidence. Have you ever noticed how confident and self-assured you feel when you dress in something you feel good in? Particularly when someone genuinely compliments you. How you dress can have a huge impact on how you carry yourself and project to other people.
The problem is that many of us don't have a clue as to what really suits us and compliments our shape. This is why so many business people are turning to an image consultant to improve their personal impact. This may seem like a costly luxury however consider the cost of restricting your career or possibly not winning a new account.
So what do you do? Well you could ask your nearest and dearest to be honest with you and tell you what they really think about what you wear. The thing is, you really need to listen and take heed of what they say.
Buy some of the fashion magazines and keep up to date on the latest fashion. It can also help to find a good clothes store where the sales assistants will give unbiased advice.
It's also important to look after the details. Do your spectacles suit your face? Are you in need of a more modern haircut? What does that cheap plastic watch say about you?
Men need to be careful about novelty ties and fancy socks with a business suit. Women need to take care with make-up, colours and perfume.
You may have a lot more to offer than a jar of anti wrinkle cream or a packet of cornflakes; however no one is going to pick you off the shelf if they don't like your packaging.
THE WINNER WALK
The Winner's Walk is a key strategy in the sport of life/business. When you meet somebody new, your perception of the person and what you feel about them is based 93% on body language. When you walk like a Winner, people will feel your presence and know you have something to offer. We all know people who are always filled with confidence and walk like they have just won a Gold Medal in the Olympics.
The exciting part about your walking like a Winner is that people will want to be around you -- to feed off your energy! As you progress in your day, take a moment and think to yourself, "Do I present myself as a winner?" If the answer is "no”, then I will share with you a few secrets on how to walk like a winner.
Walking like a winner requires that you always walk with your shoulders back, chest out and at a slightly faster pace than usual. This is the key - even when life hits you on the blind side, you need to still walk like a winner because your physiology will empower you to move through whatever is mentally frustrating you. When you walk into a meeting to market yourself or your product, people will feel your confidence and will want to hear what you have to say because they will feel your energy and enthusiasm. As you consciously practice the "Winner's Walk”, you will be walking like a WINNER in no time flat! ALL the time!
As you continue to master your body language, you will notice an increase in your personal production, because YOU WILL ACHIEVE WHATEVER YOU BELIEVE. You walk the walk...the Winner's Walk! I personally challenge you to walk like a Winner this entire week and see how things around you change! Walk like a Winner and you will be flying with the eagles!
Find your WHY and Fly!
Thought as a Vibration Toward Manifestation - Law of Attraction Classics:
THE Universe is governed by Law - one great Law. Its manifestations are multiform, but viewed from the Ultimate there is but one Law. We are familiar with some of its manifestations, but are almost totally ignorant of certain others. Still we are learning a little more every day - the veil is being gradually lifted.
We speak learnedly of the Law of Gravitation, but ignore that equally wonderful manifestation, THE LAW OF ATTRACTION IN THE THOUGHT WORLD.
We are familiar with that wonderful manifestation of Law which draws and holds together the atoms of which matter is composed - we recognize the power of the law that attracts bodies to the earth, that holds the circling worlds in their places, but we close our eyes to the mighty law that draws to us the things we desire or fear, that makes or mars our lives.
When we come to see that Thought is a force - a manifestation of energy - having a magnet-like power of attraction, we will begin to understand the why and wherefore of many things that have heretofore seemed dark to us. There is no study that will so well repay the student for his time and trouble as the study of the workings of this mighty law of the world of Thought - the Law of Attraction.
When we think we send out vibrations of a fine ethereal substance, which are as real as the vibrations manifesting light, heat, electricity, magnetism. That these vibrations are not evident to our five senses is no proof that they do not exist. A powerful magnet will send out vibrations and exert a force sufficient to attract to itself a piece of steel weighing a hundred pounds, but we can neither see, taste, smell, hear nor feel the mighty force.
These thought vibrations, likewise, cannot be seen, tasted, smelled, heard nor felt in the ordinary way; although it is true there are on record cases of persons peculiarly sensitive to psychic impressions who have perceived powerful thought-waves, and very many of us can testify that we have distinctly felt the thought vibrations of others, both whilst in the presence of the sender and at a distance. Telepathy and its kindred phenomena are not idle dreams.
Light and heat are manifested by vibrations of a far lower intensity than those of Thought, but the difference is solely in the rate of vibration. The annals of science throw an interesting light upon this question. Prof. Elisha Gray, an eminent scientist, says in his little book, "The Miracles of Nature":
"There is much food for speculation in the thought that there exist sound-waves that no human ear can hear, and color-waves of light that no eye can see. The long, dark, soundless space between 40,000 and 400,000,000,000,000 vibrations per second, and the infinity of range beyond 700,000,000,000,000 vibrations per second, where light ceases, in the universe of motion, makes it possible to indulge in speculation."
M. M. Williams, in his work entitled "Short Chapters in Science," says:
"There is no gradation between the most rapid undulations or tremblings that produce our sensation of sound, and the slowest of those which give rise to our sensations of gentlest warmth.
There is a huge gap between them, wide enough to include another world of motion, all lying between our world of sound and our world of heat and light; and there is no good reason whatever for supposing that matter is incapable of such intermediate activity, or that such activity may not give rise to intermediate sensations, provided there are organs for taking up and sensifying their movements."
I cite the above authorities merely to give you food for thought, not to attempt to demonstrate to you the fact that thought vibrations exist.
The last-named fact has been fully established to the satisfaction of numerous investigators of the subject, and a little reflection will show you that it coincides with your own experiences.
Thoughts Become Things
We are where we are, because of our thoughts in the past. Thoughts become things. We consciously or subconsciously always think about something. The problem is that we usually think more about things we don’t want, than about the things we want. It doesn’t matter if we want or don’t want something, we’ll get what we mostly think about.
Try to observe your thoughts for a day or two. Do you mostly think about the things that you worry about, you don’t want them to happen, you are afraid of, or do you mostly think about pleasant and wonderful things?
Your present situation is the result of your predominant state of mind in the past. And you are creating your future now. Your future will be like your predominant state of mind now.
The past is gone. You can’t change it, but if you are dwelling on unhappy past now, you aren’t feeling happy now, and you are creating unhappy future.
Because you’re creating the future now, only the present is important. By having predominantly happy and positive state of mind now, you’re creating your happy and positive future. It’s called the Law of Attraction. You can attract whatever you want in your life: happiness, wealth, perfect health, love and wonderful relationships.
But you can also attract things and situations that you don’t want. Actually we do it sub consciously all the time.
Because you are energy, you are like a magnet; everything is energy, you, your mind and your body. But you can control your body, and you can also control your mind.
Your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy. If you don’t control your mind and allow it to dwell on negative thoughts and feelings, it’s your worst enemy, because it creates your unhappy future. If you control your mind, it’s your best friend, because it becomes your best friend which will create your great future.
Of course lives of most of the people are a mixture of happiness and unhappiness because of their flickering states of mind. Now, because of knowing and understanding of the law of attraction you can start creating your happy future and be sure that you’ll get what you want in life.
The Law of Attraction is a broad subject and there’s no space in this short report to explain everything. Fortunately there is now more and more information available on the subject of attraction.
People like Plato, Newton, Carnegie, Beethoven, Shakespeare, Einstein and many others knew the law of attraction and lived according to the law of attraction, but it was a secret for most of the people. Now a lot of people are learning about the secret, the law of attraction and the science of manifestation.
Three Steps to Attracting More Satisfying Relationships
As long as the Law of Attraction has only the 'DON'T want' script, it is restricted to orchestrating that script over and over. We must give the Law of Attraction some NEW MATERIAL to work with.
What do you really want in your relationships? Security? Affection? Loyalty? Companionship? Communication? What?
Do you wonder why you keep attracting certain types of people into your life?
Are you tired of feeling disappointed in 'love?
Have you ever been 'blind-sided' by someone you thought was a friend?
Do you feel desperate to find that special person you can live with forever?
Here are three steps that can help you in attracting more satisfying relationships:
Step 1: Make a thorough list of all the characteristics or scenarios of your past relationships that you DON'T WANT to experience again. You can use the T-toolTM for this exercise or just take a fresh sheet of paper and draw a large 'T' on it.
Label the left hand column: 'I Don't want' and the right-hand column, 'I Do Want'.
Ask your Inner Self to remind you of past events that you do NOT want repeated.
Write a few words about each event that express the essence of that event.
Step 2: Examine each item on the 'I DON'T want ..." side and ask yourself this question: "If I don't want this, what DO I want?"
One major reason why we keep attracting the same unsatisfactory relationships is because we fail to use the contrast contained in those negative events to get clear about what we DO want.
Step 3: Write a Script about how you DO want your relationships to be:
As long as the Law of Attraction has only the 'DON'T want' Script, it is restricted to orchestrating that Script over and over. We must give the Law of Attraction some NEW MATERIAL to work with.
Scripting accesses all four parts of the brain.
The left brain which deals with words and logic;
The right brain which understands patterns and symbols ;
The mid-brain which experiences emotions; and
The brain stem which registers physical stimulation .
When we write a Script, starting with a phrase such as: "If I had my way...", and use our imagination about that which feels good to us, we are accessing our right and mid-brain. A thought or feeling comes and we translate it into words (using the left brain) that symbolize the thought or feeling (right brain again). Writing the Script engages the body, which registers in the brain stem.
When all four parts of the brain are engaged, a powerful message is delivered to the Universe.
I like to end my Scripts with the phrase, "And do this in ways that are for my highest good and the highest good of everyone involved." This is a phrase that helps me let go of 'HOW" this will all happen, and allows the Law of Attraction to bring it about in the very best possible way.
Remember, the Law of Attraction brings us precisely what we vibrate. So if we want to experience relationships that are more satisfying, then we must change our dominant vibration to match the experiences we WANT to have.
Timing
"The attitude that we would have is: 'The universe is lining it up just right, and the timing will be just exactly right. And I'm not doing anything wrong. I'm doing everything just exactly right. And in the perfect timing, a timing that I cannot even quite see yet, this is going to happen. And meanwhile there isn't anything else for me to do.'
How is it that you all get so involved in things that have nothing to do with you? The Law of Attraction is a huge Law. So next time you find yourself thinking: 'Well, I should write one more affirmation, or I should do one more Virtual Reality. I need to do something. I must be doing something wrong, or what I'm wanting would be,' we say, what you need to do is chill out. What you need to do is relax and accept that you've done your work. You've asked; the Universe is doing its work; it is answering. Your work is to get into this place where you joyfully receive it.
You can't take score about when it's coming or where it's coming, or how it's coming. In other words, you accept, in this faith-based attitude, it is coming and all is well. And as you do that, ahh.
Then, when you really get there, then it doesn't matter how long it takes--but it doesn't take any time, then. If you could say, 'I don't care how long it takes,' you're there! And then it takes no time. But as long as it matters how long it takes, you're not there--and it's going to take a long time.
To Focus Or Not To Focus
Often I receive emails from people who have been learning about and applying the Law of Attraction yet they feel stuck. They are clear about what they want. They stay focused on their desire and yet, it seems to be so slow in coming or out of reach entirely.
Here's an example of one such email: "I have been trying to attract a good mate into my life and have really focused on it for the past three months. I have posted positive affirmations on my bathroom mirror with positive quotes like 'I am married now to a wonderful person' etc.... I also read every morning and mid-day and night a positive affirmation that I am attracting a great mate who harmonizes with me. I also bought an endless loop cassette tape and recorded that I have a good spouse and that I have attracted a good person to myself etc and I listen to it every night. I really believe that it will come to me, but ..."
Could it be that this person is focusing too much? Surely all these affirmations and positive statements should have produced the desired outcome by now! Yes, this person is probably focusing too much on their desire and actually causing resistance to allowing the Law of Attraction to deliver. Here are three things about how the Law of Attraction works to consider:
Once you have clarity about your desire and feel satisfied with the mental picture and good feelings you have, then the Law of Attraction reads you loud and clear and the process of delivery is set in motion.
If you do nothing more than get crystal clear, you will receive your desire in the easiest most efficient way.
The Law of Attraction doesn't really listen to your words, but DOES read how you actually feel about this desire. When you make affirmations that are not true, like: "I have a wonderful spouse"--when you don't, the Law of Attraction only receives your opposite vibration of "I don't have a spouse." The more affirmations you make, the more you are nullifying your desire with this opposing vibration.
So, what ARE you supposed to do with that desire you've been so clear about?
Hold it in your periphery vision, rather than your focal point.
Here's an exercise that will demonstrate how to do that:
Keep your focus on this article on the screen of your computer. Now, tell me, what do you see on your far right? Don't move your eyes, just notice what is there.
OK, now tell me, what is in the upper left field? What's in the lower left field? What is at the top of your field of vision? And the bottom?
You DO know what is there without focusing on the object directly.
Now, let's pretend that one of the items in your periphery is a lamp and you want to turn it on. You move your eyes, so that the lamp is the focus of your vision, BRIEFLY, while you turn it on--then return your focus to this screen.
This is the best way to hold your clear desires: once you have clearly stated or written your desire, hold it in the periphery of your vision. Get on with other things that you enjoy. You'll know when to shift your focus to your desire--maybe you've changed your mind about a detail--or you just enjoy imagining what it feels like to be living your desire.
I have a practice of writing out my desire statement using the 3-Phrases that raise my vibration, then I put it away in a file-folder. The file folder is in my left peripheral vision when I'm at my computer.. I usually seem to 'forget about it' until it is fulfilled. Then I go digging for that particular Desire Statement and find, to my absolute delight, that EVERYTHING I asked for has come true!
The bottom line is really this: If focusing on your desire feels good, delightful, playful and exciting, then by all means, enjoy giving it attention. But if you are forcing yourself to focus--you are actually causing resistance that can cause delay. If you've been noticing the length of time it is taking for your desire to come--you are slowing down the process.
"Allowing" means staying out the the way, while you allow the Law of Attraction to deliver your desire.
Two Hearts Are Now One
It is fitting that I should write this story on Valentines Day, for this is a story of two broken hearts; healed and mended, then melted together as one--in an instant. This is a story of True Love.
Anyone who comes from a broken family understands the pain of divorce. I was twenty-seven years old when my parents divorced, and while some people think that a person shouldn't be "affected" by such things once they are adults, I can assure you--I WAS! I was shocked when my parents divorced. I had no forewarning in the natural. But, on the day that my dad told my mom that he was moving out, I felt a great anxiety in my spirit--so great that I told my husband, "Something is terribly wrong in California. I want to phone home." Considering the fact that I was three thousand miles away, on a remote island in Northern Canada, when I felt this anxiety, you can appreciate that I was deeply affected.
Pain and confusion became constant companions as I tried to "understand" what had happened--what right did he have to leave my mother? Whose standard was he using to exercise his right to leave her? What had she done that was so terrible that he could not live with her? I had questions and I asked them of nearly everyone around me. I asked God the same questions, and in so doing, I realized that my own life was in quite a mess. As I came into a better alignment with God, I searched the Bible for "the answer" to all my questions about my dad. Since he had been a Baptist minister at one time, I felt certain that he would know and obey what the Bible said about such an important issue.
About two years after the divorce, the whole family gathered in California--for one of those BIG attempts to bring reconciliation--I felt certain that dad would listen to God's Word. I reached for my Bible and said, "Dad, look at what God has to say about what you are doing." Before I could find the carefully selected passage of scripture that would straighten this mess out, he stood up and loudly cursed me, the Bible and the whole family. Then he walked out. Needless to say we were all in shock. The shock of that cursing lasted a long time--eighteen years for myself, and twenty years for my brother and sister.
Eighteen years is a long time. Think about it. It generally takes eighteen years to graduate from high school. A whole "lifetime" of events takes place in eighteen years. During those years, contact with my dad was minimal. A card from him on my birthday, Christmas cards, the odd phone call which always stirred up the pain. Someone would hear about something that he was doing and he would again become the topic of our conversation for weeks. My mother never stopped talking about him. She never let him go.
My mom maintained her relationship with God throughout this long painful separation. She read her Bible, went to church, cared about us kids and loved her grandkids. She worked as a secretary and saved her money so she wouldn't be a burden on anyone when she retired. But, always, she was obsessed with talking about my dad.
I would say that most of our conversations about him were judgemental. After all, we read our Bibles; we knew that what he had done was wrong. She had done nothing that the Bible sanctioned as reason for divorce. By the time of his third marriage, we knew he wasn't coming back to her. Still, his actions and their effect on our lives were frequent topics of our conversations.
After many years, I gave up hope for my dad to ever be reconciled to his family. I doubted he was even a Christian. I felt he was a totally lost, immoral, unstable, unsavory person. That was a very dark time for me. Gradually, I got used to the darkness in my own soul--it seemed normal.
Mother did retire and she moved from California to Canada to be near my family. She had missed out on much of the growing up of my five children, and she wanted to get to know them. She bought a condominium two blocks from my house and the kids enjoyed having "Gran" live so close. One year after moving here, she was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig's disease.
Lou Gehrig's disease was a death sentence. There was no cure. There was no treatment. I spent four months pryaing and asking God to heal my mother. Finally, the answer came: "Help her die." I accepted her diagnosis and did all I could to help her.
I wish I could tell you that I was a "good little Christian" who praised and thanked God every day for His righteous judgements--but, the truth is that I questioned God. I really felt that it was unfair of Him to let my dad go free, when he was the one who had done this great wrong to his family, and to allow my mother to die this cruel death. Finally, I asked God, "How do You see this situation?" The answer He spoke to my heart would one day transform all our lives.
About a year after my mother died, I felt something stirring inside of me--a desire to see my dad. In the long eighteen years of separation, I had only invited him once to visit my home and during that visit I had tried again--and unsuccessfully, again--to confront him with the Bible. I had no reason to expect that another visit would end differently, but I honored that desire anyway and invited him for a long weekend.
My dad came armed with his own arsenal of justifications. He knew what to expect from me. I hadn't planned anything specific to confront him on--I didn't need to, I had a whole list of offenses that I could whip out at any given moment. So, the weekend progressed--awkwardly, but quietly.
I had no idea that Spirit was about to move in on us in a powerful way. I simply invited two gentlemen friends over for lunch. They lead a prayer group I attended and I suppose I hoped they would "say something" important to my dad. If not, it was a way to let others meet my dad and see the man who had so wounded me. We were sitting around my dining room table, when one gentleman began telling the story of a young soldier in Napoleon's army who had gone A.W.O.L., been caught and was now about to face the firing squad. This young man's mother came to Napoleon and pleaded for mercy for her son. Napoleon replied, "He doesn't deserve mercy." To which the mother implored, "But, Sir, if he deserved it, it wouldn't be mercy!" At that, Napoleon allowed the boy to live. After telling this story, the gentleman said, "I have no idea why I told that story. It just came into my head."
As he had been speaking, I felt the strangest sensation of heat come over my head and into my chest. Without wavering, I said, "I know why you told that story." I turned toward my dad and gently said, "Dad, when mom was dying, I felt that God was being very unfair. So I asked Him what He had to say about the situation. Would you like to hear what God had to say about you and mom?" The room was very quiet. I could tell that my dad was afraid to know. But, after a few moments he indicated that he would.
I felt the heat increasing as I reached deep into my soul for those words, "He said, ‘I could not heal your mother, because she would not forgive. But I see the wounds upon your father's heart, and I have pity on him." In the moment I spoke those words, the power of Spirit hit both of us "like lightening." We stood up, pushed our chairs back from the table and fell into each others arms, sobbing. After quite a while of crying and kissing, we sat down again--even the two gentlemen present were crying--and I realized that I could not remember even one of those offenses on my "list." The whole list was erased from my memory--and five years later, it is still gone! (10 years later too.)
From that day on, my dad and I have had a relationship that is far beyond mere "reconciliation" or "recovery." We never had a relationship like this before--ever! This is a totally new relationship! We talk on the phone every weekend, we plan visits around special holidays, we go to conferences together. Where before my dad had been closed to the "things of the Spirit," due to the wounding caused by my own judgementalism and legalism, now he is hungry for more of the Spirit. Right away my dad began having powerful dreams which he KNEW were from God. He shares these dreams with me and we discuss their possible meanings.
Two years after this momentous day, my dad was reconciled to my brother and sister. My family traveled to California where we had a true "family reunion." It had been twenty years since the divorce.
Whenever my dad and I are together, we look for an opportunity to share our story. It is a story that brings hope to hopelessly broken relationships. It is a True Love story.
Unexpected Flowers
There is the expected, and there is the unexpected. When it's a special day for your significant other or close friend, he or she may be expecting something, and it is important to come through. But, most people agree that the best time to receive flowers and gifts is when they aren't expecting them at all.
A recent survey shows that for every 20 Americans who think Valentine's Day is the best time to receive flowers, 30 others think it's even more special when flowers are received with no special occasion in mind. It's the unexpected surprise and thoughtfulness behind the gift that means so much.
A gift on an Anniversary or Mother's Day may be rightfully expected, but receiving a gift that express love in the middle of a stressful week can turn a troubled time to a happy one. When you really love someone, it's often the little unexpected gestures that really show them how much you care. And, sending a surprise message of caring doesn't have to cost a bundle.
While 26% percent of Americans named jewelry as the gift most likely to make them smile, flowers ranked a close second at 23%, and there are a variety of fresh flower gift options at most local florists in the $10 to $20 range. Other great gifts include candies, cards, books, CDs, a special dinner out, or a romantic movie at home. Use your imagination.
Think flowers and gifts are just for women? Think again. Research shows that men are just as likely as women to appreciate flowers and gifts, especially when given for no special occasion. A colorful bouquet with a bold, masculine flair can brighten up any guy's office workday, and the gift's beauty and aroma will remind him of you every time he sees it.
We all like presents, and most people agree that an unexpected gift can turn a day around. So, remember what great gift-givers throughout the ages have always known -- it's that thoughtful gift and personal note for "no special reason" that really gets noticed. Whether it's a Monday, a bad hair day, laundry day, or any day of the week, you can always make it more special with flowers, a card, or some other personal token delivered. But whatever it is, the most important thing is that it is straight from the heart.
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Universal Law Series - Law Of Attraction
Our thoughts, emotions and feelings act as a powerful magnet, attracting circimstances into our lives. Whether these circimstances are positive or negative, is completely dependent on how we think!
This is the sixth of seven articles in our continuing series covering the core seven Universal Laws. The focus of this article is the sixth Law – the Law of Attraction.
Law of Attraction
Simply stated, the Law of Attraction says that we attract into our lives, that upon which we place our dominant thoughts. In other words, if we focus predominantly on abundance, solutions and positive outcomes then that is exactly what we will attract back into our lives. Nice!
There is a dangerous flip side to this law however - if we focus on lack, problems and negative outcomes, then that is exactly what we will attract.
You may have heard of Earl Nightingale. Known today as the father of modern day self-help, Earl, while working in the insurance business back in the mid 1950’s, cut a record called ‘The Strangest Secret’. The purpose of this record was to provide some training for his staff while he was traveling on business. Earl’s strangest secret was simply this:
“We become what we think about most of the time!”
This ‘secret’ aligns perfectly with the Law of Attraction and acts as a constant reminder that we must learn to control our thoughts. Truthfully, our own thoughts are the only things in life over which we have complete control. The challenge is to keep them in control and not let them run rampant with negativity.
For an example of the power of the Law of Attraction, you need look no further than your own life. Have you ever had one of those days, where everything seems to go wrong? From the cold shower to the burnt toast to the traffic ticket on the way to the office, to the grouchy boss, to the difficult customer, we have all experienced those days. It all starts with the way we think. Our thought patterns attract the first negative experience. This experience then puts us in a negative frame of mind which works to attract further “bad” situations. The more we focus on the “bad day” we are having, the worse things get!
The solution is to change our frame of reference. Take the negative emotions and change them to be either positive or at least neutral. Look for the lesson in every situation. Learning to laugh at ourselves is another great way to change our reference point. If we break the cycle of negativity, things will begin to turn around almost immediately.
What You Can Do
There are two things that you can start doing immediately that will help you to harness the awesome power of the Law of Attraction:
1. Ask yourself the question: “Do I focus on Lack or Abundance (or stated another way, ‘Am I problem-focused or solution-focused”)? If you answered, ‘Lack / Problems’ then set out to immediately change your frame of reference. Change your habits and thought patterns to be more positive and solution-focused.
2. Take full responsibility for whatever is happening in your life, be it good or bad. You have attracted the good as well as the bad, so taking responsibility will allow you to make the choice to change your thinking.
Positive thinking on it’s own will not solve all of your problems, however it is one of a series of things that we all have the power to implement which will get us on the path to leading the life we want.
Use the Law of Attraction to Manifest Outstanding Results
If you have gone about your life feeling frustrated, angry and stuck you can transform this lower feelings and move into an outrageous state of joy and hopefulness and begin to attract greater circumstances.
The law of attraction states that like attracts like. That simply means if you are feeling stuck and hopeless you will continue to attract more circumstances that bring about hopelessness.
One of the fastest ways to get the law of attraction to work for you is to take a period of time and do nothing more than find the things which bring you outrageous joy. Forget about wanting a new car or more money. Focus most on being joyful.
1) Make a list of all the things which make you completely happy. Then go out and do it. See if you can fill an entire week of your free time with activities that are fun and emotionally rewarding to you.
2) Get a journal – Every night before bed write out your feels about the way you spent your day. Make a point to express how you felt. Your feelings are extremely important because they inform the law of attraction as to your present vibration.
3) Each day search out activities that you may have wished to try but never got around to doing them. The more new and fun activities that you engage in the more expanded you will feel. You will naturally move into a higher more expanded state. New activities open up your inner being much more than activities that you have become too familiar with. When you are in a new environment you easily move into a more aware and open state.
By the end of the week you will be a change in your own personal energy. Now you can begin to think more about what you would like to manifest in your life. Be clear about your desire and allow the law of attraction to go to work to do wonders in brining about your desires.
To best apply the law of attraction you should be in a state of joy and openness. As you go through your daily activities you may not be aware of it but you do shut down. Everything becomes routine and you easily hold on to old thought patterns.
As you change your routine and open up you begin to see some amazing changes and your ability to master the law of attraction techniques will be greatly enhanced.
What Good Is A Rocket That Fizzles?
Muriel used to feel passionately about starting a business, but somewhere between grading tests and completing report cards she lost her enthusiasm.
For as long as she could remember Muriel, my coaching client, had secretly nurtured a dream to own her own business. But like many women in her age group, she had chosen a safer, more socially acceptable, occupation. She was a teacher. Now that she was close to retirement, she was beginning to realize that it might soon be possible to fulfill that hidden dream and start a new career. This time she would do something that would allow her to utilize many of her gifts and talents. She would own a business. With this rediscovered dream came strong feelings of desire and hope-powerful emotions called 'rockets of desire.'
Like Muriel, many of us are afraid that if we don't maintain that emotional high we won't get our heart's desire. What we fail to realize is that the initial 'rocket of desire' is only a rocket. It takes off fast and rises quickly with a flaming burst of delight. Then it descends back to earth leaving us with the memory of its brief journey and fueling our desire to ascend again.
It is this memory that motivates and sustains us to find a way to actualize the 'rocket of desire.' Once we have tasted the thrill of owning a business, a new automobile, a new home or vacation, once we have felt the rush of excitement and delight in our imagination, then we begin to move toward that desire.
The secret of getting your heart's desire is to keep your attention on what you want-on that idea or goal which caused the 'rocket of desire.' What happens to many of us is that after the rocket has returned to earth, we begin to observe reality; the way things are now. We focus on reasons why we don't have and probably can't have that desired outcome and effectively put the brakes on our 'rocket of desire'. Unless we can look beyond what is present today and picture ourselves as we want to be, we may never attain the level of belief necessary to receive the 'rocket of desire' as our new reality.
Muriel had come to our coaching session focused on her lack of passion. She was so worried about her waning emotions that she was not paying attention to what had shown up for her that week--a potential business partner. However, once Muriel saw this little graph and understood where she was in the process she was able to recognize the significance of meeting her potential business partner and to continue the work necessary to realize her dream.
Just like Muriel, we can get the most from our 'rocket of desire' by recognizing it for what it is--the exhilarating emotion necessary for creating a memory that sustains our hope until the 'rocket of desire' becomes our reality.
What is the Universal Law of Attraction?
The Universal Law of Attraction states:
We attract whatever we choose to give our attention to--whether wanted or unwanted.
Most of the time, we attract by 'default' rather than by deliberate choice. We just sort of go through our day, focusing on problems that need to be solved or on things that did not feel good nor seem right. In so doing, we are actually creating more problems, more of what does not feel good and more of what does not seem right.
Think of yourself as a huge magnet. The kind that pulls metal to itself from afar off. It doesn't "try" to attract, it simply does attract. It is the same way for us. Whether or not we are trying to attract, we ARE doing so all the time. (Except when we are asleep.) And we attract the likeness of what we think about. If we are thinking about a lack of something, we are attracting more lack (scarcity). If we are thinking about something we love, we are attracting more of what we love and enjoy. I know it sounds incredibly simple, and it is.
We humans are actually very powerful attractors and we can use this wonderful, god-given power to attract more of what we want in life-simply by paying attention to where we place our thoughts and desires.
An old proverb just came to my mind: "As a man thinks in his heart, so is he." Proverbs 23:7 It's interesting that the writer of this proverb says "thinks in his heart" because most of the time, we think that we think with our mind. However, it is truly from the heart where we do our thinking, our believing, our ' vibrating.'
It is from the heart that we attract. Picture your heart as a powerful magnet. The heart is the ' vibrator' of all signals that attract.
Think of a radio. It has many different stations. To tune into a station you dial a specific frequency. As soon as we turn our attention to something (dialed it's frequency) it begins its journey to us.
To be rid of something you do not want in your life, simply tune in to a different vibration (frequency or radio station)--to something that you do want.
I see the art of Deliberate Attraction as consisting of three parts:
1. Getting very clear about what it is I am wanting
2. Raising my vibration until it matches what I want
3. Allowing what I want to come to me
We have the opportunity to gain clarity in knowing precisely what we want, through the many 'contrasts' that life offers us. The key to successfully using contrast is to observe it briefly and use it to help you decided what you do want. This takes a little practice, since our habit is to talk about, tell others about and focus on what we did not like.
It is usually part three that trips me up. I have held onto some self-limiting beliefs for a very long time-so long that I no longer recognize them, yet they are still vibrating below the surface, canceling out what I am wanting.
My work is to let go of all resistance and believe that what I am wanting will come to me--simply because I want it.
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